I'm just curious... anyone out there choose to have four children? Why did you have a fourth child? What are the age spacing between children? How old were you when you had your fourth? I'm asking because I have three kids and have mixed feelings about having a fourth. Thought I'd see how other families handled four kids. Thanks for answering!!
Alix C.
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Yep! My kids are 7, 5, 4, and 2, and Baby #5 is due in 20 weeks. I'm 37 years old, will be 38 next year. My husband is 39. We always wanted lots of kids, but I think 5 will be enough...
Lizzy ~ delightfully mad
I did. I chose to have 5 pregnancies, but my last one was identical twin boys, so it worked out a little differently! My husband and I both come from big families, I'm one of 7 (now 6), and my husband from a family of 6. We always wanted a big family and decided on 5 early on.
Our spacing is always 2 years, give or take, except for between my fourth and the twins. They were all planned to be close-ish in age and I'm glad we did it that way. It was always hard the first year, but after that they're actually a lot easier with a close sibling. I was 31 when my fourth was born.
#1 - Oct 1993
#2 - 1995 (2 years, 1 month between #1 and #2)
#3 - 1998 (2 years, 9 months between 2 & 3)
#4 - 2000 (2 years, 2 months between 3 & 4)
#5/#6 - 2002 (14 months between 4 & 5/6)
I actually found going from 3 to 4 very easy. Then again, my fourth, my second daughter, is very easy anyway. She was an easy baby and an easy toddler, and is still easy. The twins more than make up for her in the chaos department ;) But it's all good. It really isn't that hard after the second or third child.
Just Me
My sister is expecting her fourth child right now. Her kids' ages are 10 (boy), 4 (boy), 2 (girl), and another girl due December 7th. She will turn 30 soon after the baby is born. It wasn't exactly planned, but it wasn't prevented either.
Her oldest two are from a previous relationship and marriage. She met and married her current husband about 2 years ago and they had a daughter. He's always wanted a boy so they decided on one more but it's another girl lol. They are done though after this.
My sister and brother-in-law do struggle financially but they are wonderful parents. She handles 4 kids better than I can handle my 2 haha. My sister always says that after 2 kids it's all the same and you can handle anything so I guess it's true to a point. She seems to do a very good job.
Good luck!
Darren and Karleigh's mom
I have 2 now and plan to have 2 more in the next 5 years. My oldest is 9 an baby is 3 months. We had some infertility issues that we dealt with for 4 years so thats why the age difference. I'll be 35 by the nd of it all.
S
I am one of four, but originally planned to be just two but four kids worked out fine for my mom (both parents worked but it was okay).
1. 1981 (me) sept
2. 1983 nov
3. 1988 oct
4. 1994 oct
I was 13 when number 4 was born and honestly it didn't make a huge difference. I think it's a big jump from 1 to 2 and also 2 to 3, but number four just slots right in because if you have a schedule it's already working.
My mother was 38 when she had number 4 and I know that number 4 felt she missed out on a lot of family things because we were all grown and at college etc. when she was in school. I would recommend having them closer together and younger.
For our family neither 3 nor 4 were planned but really it is strange to think of life without them right now. Like this thought you are having right now can one day grow into a proper person, I would say go for it!