What are the most important life lessons you've learned so far?
Hi, I'm an 18 year old and although I have never been in a sexual relationship, travelled, had a job, I have had friendships, met a lot of people, and been though my share of difficulties, and I feel I've learned some really important things from them These are 1. When it comes down to it, even your closest friends will act in their own best interests rather than yours 2. Be open to getting to meeting new friends, but keep certain parts of yourself hidden from them until they become good friends 3. Dedication to an altruistic, beneficial cause does not make someone decent or pleasant on a personal level 4. Most people who are brilliant at something were good at it when they started and just practiced a lot 5. It is very easy to do the right thing the wrong way 6. People who you think are your best friends can completely forget about you, and if they do, all you can do is give them a reminder that you’re still there and care, and if that doesn’t work, then you must accept this and, no matter how much it may hurt, give yourself what you deserve and forget about them. 7. One of the biggest mistakes we all make is the equating of age to maturity and wisdom
I feel that all the time I grow in knowledge and gain wisdom through self reflection, observation and experience Yeah, what are the most important lessons you have learned?
Big Bill2010-02-17T06:20:49Z
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I am in my late fifties and, after having gone through all of the angst and upheavals of life so far from a childhood in a dysfunctional family, the missteps of puberty and adolescence, young adulthood, to middle age and now as a bit of a grey beard, the father of one elementary age daughter (now she's the smart one...and should probably be answering this question as she is more insightful than I'll ever be...) and all of that, the most important thing I have learned is simply that "it's all right".
We don't have to judge nor to worry about being judged.
We don't need to "get even" or do things that show that we are the "boss" and in control.
We don't need to make demands of others or even of ourselves.
We don't need to fight and hate is a waste of time.
We just need to "be", to breathe and to relax realizing that "it's all right" and life is truly wonderful if we only open our eyes and our hearts and let it be.
For any part of your life: First count your blessings. Decide what you want. You can plan ahead..it usually pays off,in my experience,and you can still be spontaneous if it suits you. Implement the plan...as far as you can. Also ..review your past plans for outcome positive or negative and feed in amendments in future. Keep Trying. Try Harder. Celebrate every success ,no matter how small. Don't necessarily make all your goals and dreams public-it can attract negativity ...above all you don't need that if you have been largely realistic in your main aims. If someone is supportive- value them and consider their opinions. Keep counting your blessings Tell your family you love them...if you're tough enough to do that.Work up to it gradually..it may need decades. Tell people you appreciate them for whatever -specific -or if you just like them let them know somehow...just telling them right out loud really does work with nice people -or smile.
Put your hours in ,but plan some leisure. Keep physically fit ..this helps your feelgood factor. Try to learn from the mistakes of others..to save you time and trouble. Count your blessings..you are probably part of the lucky 10% of the people in this world... you know things could be a lot worse?
1. The love of your life will leave you if you aren't careful and don't treat them with love and respect.
2. I am responsible for my own happiness.
3. I am responsible for my every thought, word, deed and emotion. I choose how I react to situations.
4. Thinking positively brings unexpected rewards from surprising places and people.
5. Don't take for granted the every day magic and beauty Nature has to offer.
6. Respect, truth and love are the three most important things you need in a relationship.
7. Each partner in a relationship needs to give 100% for it to work. Fifty-fifty isn't enough.
8. No, knowledge and wisdom aren't necessarily learned even though a person is older, but becoming mature enough to take a long hard look at yourself and admit your deepest mistakes to yourself, takes time and age, sometimes. Becoming able to look at your "dark" side and working at changing your bad trait, in order to become a better person, sometimes does take age and years of work.
9. True friends are hard to come by. Love and respect them when you find them.
Wow, you've learned some very important lessons already at your young age. I'm 47 and here are some of the most important things I've learned:
1. Be grateful for what you have. Envy of what others have and always striving for something more puts you in a very negative state.
2. Happiness is within. Moving to another city, finding the right man, losing another 5 pounds will NOT make me happy. But accepting who I am, being content with my life, appreciating the beauty around me will bring me happiness.
3. Be tolerant. If I can accept myself for who I am, then I can accept others for who they are. When I am open to all possibilities, I can offer understanding and compassion to others with no need to judge them.
4. Appreciate your family and friends. Let them know you love them. Show them you love them. Never take them for granted.