What are the most important life lessons you've learned so far?

I am in my late fifties and, after having gone through all of the angst and upheavals of life so far from a childhood in a dysfunctional family, the missteps of puberty and adolescence, young adulthood, to middle age and now as a bit of a grey beard, the father of one elementary age daughter (now she's the smart one...and should probably be answering this question as she is more insightful than I'll ever be...) and all of that, the most important thing I have learned is simply that "it's all right".

We don't have to judge nor to worry about being judged.

We don't need to "get even" or do things that show that we are the "boss" and in control.

We don't need to make demands of others or even of ourselves.

We don't need to fight and hate is a waste of time.

We just need to "be", to breathe and to relax realizing that "it's all right" and life is truly wonderful if we only open our eyes and our hearts and let it be.

namaste

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For any part of your life:

First count your blessings.

Decide what you want.

You can plan ahead..it usually pays off,in my experience,and you can still be spontaneous if it suits you.

Implement the plan...as far as you can.

Also ..review your past plans for outcome positive or negative and feed in amendments in future.

Keep Trying.

Try Harder.

Celebrate every success ,no matter how small.

Don't necessarily make all your goals and dreams public-it can attract negativity ...above all

you don't need that if you have been largely realistic in your main aims. If someone is supportive-

value them and consider their opinions.

Keep counting your blessings

Tell your family you love them...if you're tough enough to do that.Work up to it gradually..it may need decades.

Tell people you appreciate them for whatever -specific -or if you just like them let them know somehow...just telling them right out loud really does work with nice people -or smile.

Put your hours in ,but plan some leisure.

Keep physically fit ..this helps your feelgood factor.

Try to learn from the mistakes of others..to save you time and trouble.

Count your blessings..you are probably part of the lucky 10% of the people in this world...

you know things could be a lot worse?

Life Lessons I've learned in my 57 years.

1. The love of your life will leave you if you aren't careful and don't treat them with love and respect.

2. I am responsible for my own happiness.

3. I am responsible for my every thought, word, deed and emotion. I choose how I react to situations.

4. Thinking positively brings unexpected rewards from surprising places and people.

5. Don't take for granted the every day magic and beauty Nature has to offer.

6. Respect, truth and love are the three most important things you need in a relationship.

7. Each partner in a relationship needs to give 100% for it to work. Fifty-fifty isn't enough.

8. No, knowledge and wisdom aren't necessarily learned even though a person is older, but becoming mature enough to take a long hard look at yourself and admit your deepest mistakes to yourself, takes time and age, sometimes. Becoming able to look at your "dark" side and working at changing your bad trait, in order to become a better person, sometimes does take age and years of work.

9. True friends are hard to come by. Love and respect them when you find them.

Wow, you've learned some very important lessons already at your young age. I'm 47 and here are some of the most important things I've learned:

1. Be grateful for what you have. Envy of what others have and always striving for something more puts you in a very negative state.

2. Happiness is within. Moving to another city, finding the right man, losing another 5 pounds will NOT make me happy. But accepting who I am, being content with my life, appreciating the beauty around me will bring me happiness.

3. Be tolerant. If I can accept myself for who I am, then I can accept others for who they are. When I am open to all possibilities, I can offer understanding and compassion to others with no need to judge them.

4. Appreciate your family and friends. Let them know you love them. Show them you love them. Never take them for granted.

-doing something with good intentioons doesn't mean it will automatically be welcomed

-sure you can trust the gov't; just ask an American Indian!

-it's worse than you think AND AT THE SAME TIME it's not as bad as you think!

-THINK FOR YOURSELF; QUESTION AUTHORITY!

-there's no leash law for the imagination!

----thought of some more----

'the universe is a comedy to those who think, and a tragedy to those who feel'

-happiness is NOT a goal & not something you try to be. Just BE, and be happy along the way!

-'no plan survives contact with the enemy'(Clausewitz...?) AKA 'life is what happens when you make other plans'

1. Don't trust anyone but yourself.

2. Don't depend on anyone to make you happy...YOU make urself happy

3. Love doesn't exist at my age. Grow older first and maybe you'll find a MAN

4. Sometimes you just have to give up in order to go on

There is always someone or something cleverer than yourself.

Humility and Wisdom go together.

Arrogance and Ignorance go together.

Learn to listen to that which is not spoken.

Read the Bible, at least once.

We don't learn even from our mistakes.