My Aquarius man broke up with me 2 weeks ago, a month out of rehab. Will he ever come back?
I am a cancer female. We had three almost perfect months together, the problem being he was in rehab for the first two so our contact was limited. As soon as he got out, he started wanting to spend much of his free time with me. 2 weeks ago he told me that being in a relationship was distracting him from his sobriety and he ended things and has virtually disappeared. He came over once since then and we made love, and after that he got even colder. I've read up a lot on Aqua's and some sites say they come back and other's say they move on and never return. Then you toss in the rehab scenario. I've never been through what he has. Is it possible that with all these issues facing us, I could somehow win him back? I've given him space after an emotional outburst meaning I haven't contacted him for three days...I don't know what to do. I just want him to be clean and be with me. I don't think he's using again because he lives with his family, but I guess I have no way of knowing. Any insight please...thank you.
2010-05-27T14:30:07Z
I didn't know the old him, the him who used. He wasn't in for drinking. We were casual acquantances as kids and reconnected over the internet...that still doesn't mean much though. Thanks for the input :-(
Anonymous2016-04-12T12:55:37Z
I'd take the blessing that you've come across... Not only do you have a baby but, you didn't have to end up married with a woman who is clearly not over her ex, and potentially a cheater. If she really wanted to be with you, something like her mom pushing her into her ex's arms 1 week after you guys break up during a 6 month pregnancy would have not had any effect on her. Not only that, she's marrying the ******... why isn't she marrying you instead... the father of her child? My advice is to quit while your ahead... move on and try your hardest to be a part of the baby's life. Oh, and a get a paternity test... as much as an asshole this makes me seem, it's possible shes hiding something due to the story she gave you about her mom. Sounds like lies. I know this because Ive kinda been through the same thing... she left me saying her parents didnt approve and made a whole story about it, and right afterwards shes hooked up with a dude who is obviously less suitable than me... you might love her but she can also be a liar. my two cents from personal experience.
Do you drink yourself? If you do, he shouldn't be arround you. Too much temptation. He is doing what is best for his recovery. If not, you have to realize that he is a different person than he was when he went in. You may be trying to have the relationship you had before. If you want him back you need to convince him that you will be trying over, as if you had never met. He has just gone through a life changing experience that you didn't share, you have to give him a little time and distance to get acquanted with his new life. If you want to be apart of that new life, you have to show him that you want to get to know the new him.
An Aquarious guy here...I'd say he will be back for sex from time to time. But understand you will never be totally done with him. He will come back for sex...and even if you don't sleep with him he will come back anyway. Guys like that make a connection with people and move on...but to them time freezes when they are gone and in a year or 5 or 10 he will calmly come back and be like no time passed.
I do it all the time...by now either I have freaked out or my people are used to me. But it happens. Best one at understanding ths is an Aquarious woman who after 25% years still calls me like it was yesterday and we chat.
But he needs to deal with his demons before he has a full relationship. And you will never be 'the one' as he will want to put as much distance between himself and his past as possible.
If he is trying to get sober, definitely give him his space to recover and and find out what he really wants to do with his life. Then he will be ready for a relationship once he can take care of himself. If he is worth it, be patient.