Okay so I answered a question that had to do with a bridesmaid changing the tips of her hair pink to her natural hair color (or whatever she had with the pink...I dunno...she dyed her hair often apparently.) for the wedding. Apparently a lot of people think this is wrong. I have another question though. The what do people think of a bride and/or groom asking their wedding party to cover tattoos or take out certain piercings on their wedding day? I know people do this often...so...I just want opinions. If someone had an outrageous hair color, tattoos or piercings you didn't like, would you ask them to cover up or take out such things for your day? Is this considered wrong?
Oot n Aboot2010-07-23T08:40:47Z
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I wouldn't ask them to personally. And I don't plan on covering mine for my wedding. If anyone is expected to removed piercing I would hope they wouldn't make anyone remove anything that might grown in so they can't put the piercing back.
I am a BM at my cousin's wedding and I have a pretty big back tattoo and even though she didn't ask me to yet, I am totally fine and prepared to cover it. I would prefer to cover it with a shall or jacket as opposed to cover-up though.
I love my tattoos but I know that not everyone feels that way and when it is someone else's wedding there is often a lot of extended family coming that the couple or I have never met. Some of these people may be really conservative and I wouldn't want to cause any scene for the couple's family or new family in law because I have tattoos so if they wanted me to cover them, I'd be okay with it.
I would never ask someone to cover tattoos for personal preference. I also would probably not even bring up the issue of piercings with my wedding party either, while I am not big on facial piercing’s some people are, and that is part of who they are. But luckily no one in my wedding party has any facial piercings.
As for tattoos, I myself have them, though mine are all tattoos you can’t see in normal clothing because I was worried how visible tattoos would affect me in a rough job market. My tattoos are part of me and each one represents a different part of who I am and my life. I would never ask any of my bridal party to cover theirs up.
The pastor who is marrying us however does require tattoos be covered for the ceremony. Only one of my girls has a visible shoulder tattoo so since I have nearly a year, I am trying to find a unique way to cover it without her having to use make-up.
I think the only situation where its appropriate to ask is when the ceremony site requires it. And as for the hair in the other question. A good updo could mask the pink in a pretty easy manner without anyone worrying about it.
I'm not a fan of tattoos and piercings, and I don't have any besides normal pierced ears.
But I also think that my friends have a right to decide what they do with their own bodies. If I'm more concerned with their tattoos than who they are as a person, then I'm probably not being a very good friend.
So if my bridesmaids all decide to dye their hair orange the day before the ceremony, or if the best man shows up with a neck tattoo, will I think those things are kind of icky/off-putting? Yes. Will I make them change it? No. My authority extends to picking out their outfits, and that's where it stops.
I personally don't think its wrong to ask. I think if someone has a really outrageous look- an unexpected hair color, a lot of tattoos and facial piercings then they should EXPECT to tone it down for a wedding. Like I said when I answered the previous question... its an honor to be asked to be a part of one's bridal party and it should be treated that way. Not by throwing hissy fits because someone asks you to get your hair done. I think slathering someone in makeup cover up would be pretty uncomfortable, and I would never ask that of anyone... but little tattoos on someones arms or chest can be easily covered up... Honestly, I think it looks trashy to begin with and no, I wouldn't want to look back at pictures and cringe for these women.
As a tattooed person, I was raised that tattoos being exposed in church are inappropriate -- I wore a bolero jacket to cover mine up in church during the ceremony then let 'em hang out during the reception.
So if your wedding is in a church, I see nothing wrong with asking people to wear a wrap or jacket or long dress to cover the ink. If your wedding is not in church, you could still ask that ink be kept under wraps during the ceremony or you could let your friends be themselves and let 'em hang out.
Piercings are another issue. I'm a little more "leave 'em be" on that matter.