almost 20 years old but look 15?

Hi, I am a 19 year old male and in a month I will be turning 20. But based on my phsical appearance I think most people would say I look 15/16, with many high school sophomores probably looking older than me. For as long as I can remember I looked way younger than I actually am just because I didn't develop at a normal rate. In fact my voice did not drop until my senior year in high school. Because of this my social life suffered immensely and I actually really did nothing in high school at all, not because I didn't want to but because I was rejected by my peers. I kept telling myself that soon I would look older and this problem would be behind me. At the beginning of 9th grade I told myself that by the end of the year I would catch up and look like everyone else and now here I am as a sophomore in college and I still often spend hours awake at night before going to sleep just thinking about how young I look. It has crushed my self confidence and my ability to meet new people because I am afraid of what they will think of me. I think a lot of the time that people give me weird looks and for instance one time last year this guy gave me this look when i was at a college event and asked me if i was in college as if it would be absolutely shocking even though we were surrounded only by students. It is so frustrating that I spend hours each week looking for solutions. Recently I was thinking that if I was able to increase my testosterone levels, I would develop faster and catch up with everyone....maybe by my junior year of college. I am going to start looking for internships and jobs soon and it is hard for potential employers to take me seriously when I look like a freshman in high school. i found an herb called tongkat ali that is supposed to increase testosterone levels naturally. my question is should i take it? what do you think? has anyone here had it before PS if you were going to answer that this is great because i will look 20 when im 40 just please dont answer because you dont understand..... i dont mean to come off as a complainer because i know i have it better than so many people but this is just affecting my life so much and i want to move past it. thanks for taking the time to read this i appreciate it

Colors2010-10-09T21:29:57Z

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Read your story and it was like reading about myself
When I was 18 was denied entrance to a lot of things:like xxx movies etc.
Then we did not yet have ID cards
But in my case it did not play such a big role
Am very outgoing outspoken and real smart
Started the teaching training college at the age of 16
And had to teach:and children are mean.
What are you gonna do here?
You just look like my older brother
Do you think that I cared one bit
On the contrary
Am 59 now and people tell me that I look like 40
Well that is certainly great
Look at the bright side of it
What you can do to boost you testosterone levels is workout:then you might start growing faster:Would not trust any herbs.
Success:Colors

mull2017-01-18T22:35:42Z

How To Look 20 Years Old

hessosui2010-10-09T21:49:29Z

I had the same problem. When I graduated from High school I also weighed 110lbs and ate like a horse. I always looked like a freshman. At 23 I was still being pulled over by cops checking to make sure I was old enough to drive. I've worked since 19, at 26 I began working for a marketing firm and people initially have a hard time feeling comfortable with me thinking they were working with a rookie and so on. So yes it presented challenges. But 1) I still got jobs, 2) I at 29 I just went to my 10 year reunion where everyone looks 10 years older than I *still* 3) it's not the end of the world. Depending on how you deal with it, this can work for you. I hate to break it to you but looking young is a blessing if you let it be. But most of the time you are so anxious to be what you are not that you don't look at how you can make what you have work for you. Stop trying to fix it, and start trying to use it. 5 reasons why you should stop b*tching. This makes you a wolf in sheeps clothing.

1) You will look 20 when you are 40. Sorry it's true. I look 24 now going on 30. Hit the weights, you don't have to be huge, look at the UFC they have guys at 155lbs that look MASSIVE. I weigh 160 now, and as long as you are cut you would make who ever is looking at you happy.

2) You are in college so i know it matters. Girls huh? Guess what they already trust a baby face. Its a good thing. Some of these guys that are so 'Ruggedly Handsome" now, fade away....quickly to 'Used to be hot". Learn to talk to girls and not impress them with the peacocking. Intellect and easy on the eyes is hard to beat. Its sad but its true, girls your age date older guys....well older guys date younger women. Be happy that while you are 29 you are never going to be that creepy looking guy. *I had a blast going to Cancun last year and blending in :D

3) Older women will love you. Enough said.

4) On your job you will get twice the respect when you do a good job. If people first worry because you seem younger, then you perform above and beyond their standards they will give you twice the respect than when the EXPECT those results already. And again most people already TRUST you as a person, in my profession as when I was an account manager gaining trust was the KEY. Not one person ever worried about my motives or if I was *screwing them*. You can play this card to your benefit.

5) Oh and you'll look 20 when you are 40.

Its all in your head, leave the herbs alone.

?2015-05-28T08:09:50Z

I completely understand I'm 20 years old and I'm enrolled in college but everyone ever since I was little always thinks I'm younger than I appear and some time it's really flattering but other times it's incredibly annoying like trying to go clubbing and get turned down a thousand times because they think you have a fake ID or sitting in class and people around you continually ask how old are you? I completely feel you pain and it's ruff sometimes but eventually it'll get better the best advice I can give to you is just act really mature not only in you behavior but in the clothes you wear experiment with your look that's what I did and it's not 100% full proof but honestly just brush off the haters and in time when you give them no reaction they'll let it go and you'll be the one victorious! Love a person that understands

?2010-10-09T21:32:24Z

My husband was the same way in high school. He didn't have his growth spurt until well after high school and was probably 23 or so until he finally stopped growing height wise also. It must be hard dealing with it around peers. My husband moved after high school and made a new group of great friends. Don't give up yet, you ll get there. This friend of ours that didn't find him as attractive during high school saw him at a high school reunion this summer after ten years and barely recognized him and she couldn't stop talking about how great he looked... Her comments were positive so maybe you'll do the same and make the girls do double takes when they see you after a few years. I would just let your body do it's thing. If you get really worried about it maybe ask to have your blood drawn and your Dr can just check your testosterone levels. I would do that before those herbs. I bet your levels are probably fine and your just a late bloomer like my handsome and tall manly husband.

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