Would you break off an engagement if you found out he or she was a prostitute?
They want to support the family with good money made this way, would you go along with it?
They want to support the family with good money made this way, would you go along with it?
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Well, these are desperate times that call for desperate measures but come on - you can't believe that if your partner has multiple sex partners for money that they are going to be physically free from Syphillis, Gonorrhea, HIV, venereal warts, hepatits B, the virus that causes cervical cancer and so many more. There are so many complications that the risks definitely would outweight the benefits with this kind of career. I picked up a book at the library for job seekers all about the great ways to start a new career and I was shocked to find that it had a whole chapter on the wonders of a career in prostitution. If you have no moral qualms about it and you can be sure that every single person your spouse sleeps with has a full medical report and bloodwork done and background check just before having sex then it would be safer. But, there are other risks too in prostitution, women get raped, taken advantage of and left without payment, sometimes a person stalks them, or even murders them. The other thing is with prostitution, if the person sleeping with your spouse is married - then their spouse might come after your spouse and/or your family with a gun. It leads to serious negative consequences that far outweigh the benefits even if you have no conscience/moral/spiritual qualms about it holding you back. I would feel sick if I found out that my fiancee was one and I would run to the doctor to get a full physical and bloodwork at the right times to ensure that I haven't contracted something horrible if I had already slept with that person. Ewww - it's like having sex with a filthy rag from the sewage physically speaking there's so many bacteria and so much viral activity going on there - what's the difference? I'm not saying prostitutes are filthy rags - I'm only saying that their physical condition is such that their body is in that condition with the number of viruses and bacteria going on and getting spread to him or her. It doesn't matter really if you are a prostitute or not - anytime you're talking sex with multiple partners - you make yourself a germ incubator and spreader. Some people it is reported have more than 500 sex partners in a year - OK - so yeah - those are the people who get really really sick eventually with one or more debilitating diseases.
morphia
It would depend on a lot of factors. I honestly think the fact that they were a prostitute would bother me a lot less than the fact they had hidden it from me.
I'd certainly not want to continue the relationship until we'd had a very full and frank discussion. The safety aspect would always be paramount to me both to myself and my partner.
I have several close friends who are prostitutes and i know for a fact that despite the portrayals in the media many of them are not crack-whores with pimps. They don't all stand on street corners plying their trade.
Kix717
I would definately break off the engagement if she did not give it up. I dont know what made her get into the "business" to begin with but we are all capable of bad judgement and mistakes, in this case terrible judgement, but who am I to judge. Perhaps she had a rough upbringing or was abused or who knows. I think you have to look deep into the soul of the person and try to find out what led her down this path to know if you can trust that she will change. But if she wont agree or you dont think you can trust her to then I would think twice because it will surely be the break-up of your marriage if she doesnt stop. Life is tough, good luck.
seamstress
Yes. Absolutely yes. I would break off the engagement.
No, Positively no, I would not support such a disgrace.
If you have ever seen a documentary on the lifestyle of a prostitute you would know the daily risks they take all in the name of a buck. They subject themselves to crude tricks, physical abuse, narcotics, demented individuals, unsafe conditions, and above all sexual diseases to bring home to you.
Nothing is worth all the worry about them having and preforming sexual acts with others while I lay awake at night waiting for them to return home safely. No amount of money is worth that risk and any wife or husband who allows such nonsense is a sick individual with zero priorities.
Above all, a monumental secret was kept from me, so the trust factor has fallen below the line. That, alone would send me packing.
Anonymous
I wouldn't be engaged to someone and oblivious of their profession. But, let's play pretend, no, I would not marry a prostitute.