Do I have a weird kid? Moms of 18-month-olds?

My daughter is 18 months old. I love her to death, but sometimes I really wonder about her. I don't think anything is WRONG with her, I just think she might be a little... weird.

Here's why:
-She would rather play by herself than with me, especially when toys are involved. I guess I just don't play with them right.
-She has no interest in playing with toys the way they're meant to be played with. She doesn't like stacking blocks, or putting the shapes through the slots, or putting puzzle pieces in. She'd rather just hit things off of other things while looking bored.
-She's very smart; she imitates things we do (like talking on the phone, getting dressed) and she feeds herself, but she won't imitate the "right" way to play with toys.
-She doesn't like to be read to. She runs off, or tries turning the pages, or closing the book. Even picture books with no words, if I try to show her something like "Oh, look! A bunny!" she immediately closes the book.
-She doesn't seem to like kids shows. When mommy needs to go do dishes or something, movies like Sister Act hold her attention better than Dora or WonderPets.
-She's learning more and more words, and she seems to know what they mean and understand us just fine. If I ask her if she needs her diaper changed, she'll say yes if she does (she won't say no if she doesn't, she'll just run off laughing). But there are times when she'll point at one thing and just go down her list of words while pointing at the same thing. For example, pointing at cheerios and saying "say please!" but if I don't get them quick enough she goes "say please! more! shoes! kitty!" as if she's trying to see which word gets me to move faster. She doesn't try to say cheerios or cookie or whatever it is, just her list of words over again.
-She seems to like doing things that are bad more than she likes doing things that are good. I'll be sitting on the floor with her trying to play with her, and she'll run over and start tugging on the baby gate, or messing with the baby swing, or hitting the TV, instead of playing with me. It's like she'd rather have negative attention than positive.
-She's almost self-destructive. When she's tired or upset, she'll pinch her neck or her feet. She "tickles" her belly button to the point that it's got a raw scratched-up spot in it (even though I keep her nails short).
-Most of the time, she'd rather wander around the house holding a toy while following someone (me, the cat, her dad) than actually play us or the toy.

I just don't get it. My friend brought her daughter over the other day, and she seemed so.. interactive. My daughter just seems bored. I'm thinking that maybe she just has so many toys she gets overwhelmed and never really plays with any. I'm also thinking it might have something to do with her baby brother being born a month ago. I'm just not sure.

I also think I might be obsessing a bit. Since the new baby was born, I get stressed and frustrated very easily, and maybe I'm making something out of nothing. Any imput (you know, imput that doesn't say "your kid's a retard and so are you!") is welcome.

2010-10-27T15:21:03Z

I haven't fully researched autism, but according to the checklist her doctor gave us, she's right on track developmentally. I was asking more about whether or not her personality is normal than whether or not she has a learning disorder. Like I said, she's a smart kid, and she doesn't avoid eye contact or anything like that.

MAK2010-10-27T15:38:29Z

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It sounds like she's intellectually advanced and bored out of her mind. If she likes adult (mature) shows then let her watch some educational shows or game shows.

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Anonymous2010-10-27T15:25:15Z

Every kid is different. I would ask your doctor, and see if she needs evaluated. It would be a good idea, and then if she fine, it will put your mind at ease. If there is anything wrong with her, it is the best to catch it early. Early intervention is key to success.
If you think she has too many toys, take some away and put them up. Maybe leave like 5 toys out for her, and thats it. Maybe try not going to her to play. Just start playing with a toy, and see if she wants to come and join. Sit and read a book outloud, and see if she becomes interested. Dont try to make her do it, just do it yourself and see if she becomes interested.

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?2010-10-27T14:52:43Z

I think that she is probably just being a typical 18 month old. Don't worry. She is still really a baby herself, and all kids mature at different times. She could just be testing you with a new baby around, maybe she thinks that she is not getting enough attention, or that is just her personality. I have 3 kids and let me tell you they are all like night and day. My first one was and is a breeze compared to my second. I think for as hard as it maybe, just try and relax, and hopefully as the next 6 months go by, she will change some of her habits. Have you discussed this with your doctor? Hopefully he or she would give you the best information on your situation.

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L2010-10-27T15:55:24Z

What Izzy said is also what I think the answer is. When reading your story I also thought it may be a form of Asberger's Syndrome.

Watch the movie Temple Grandin, also on youtube Asperger's Documentary - My Crazy Life 1 through 3. It could help you have a better understanding....you may also want to ask your doctor.

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