My boyfriend isn't interested in having sex anymore?
My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for about 4 years now, and we've been living together for over a year. We've never had sex very often. Now we haven't for over a month, and only every 2 weeks or so before that. We used to almost every weekend when we'd been drinking, but even that hasn't been happening. I always try to initiate it. We talked about it the other night, he always says he just doesn't get the urge to do it all the time. I asked him if he was still attracted to me, he said yes. I asked him if he ever wanted to have sex with me, he said yes sometimes. He said I'm always grumpy... I get on the computer instead of watching him play video games. He said I need to be nicer more of the time instead of just jumping him at night when he's tired. Maybe if I didn't feel so depressed and rejected, I wouldn't be so damn grumpy! I'm at my wits end. I feel hideous and disgusting. I know I'm not, I know there's plenty of people who would want me. I just don't know what else to do. I've tried talking to him, being reasonable, but I don't think I can live like this forever! I don't remember the last time I really felt connected with someone. Sex helps me feel closer to him and helps with my stress. I don't know if it's me or him, or a little of both.
Sorry for the long post. Any input would be greatly appreciated.