Cosleeping with more than one child...?

My son will be 28 months old when our new baby arrives. He's almost 21 months now. He cosleeps with me and dad, and he nurses several times at night. I've heard from others its best to have mom or dad in between the baby and toddler, since the toddler can crawl over on top of the new baby.

However, since my son still nurses at night, he is in the habit of crawling over me at night to switch sides to nurse. So even if I have one child on either side of me, I'm worried my son will still crawl over and hurt the baby. I would *like* my son to be night weaned or get better used to cuddling my husband more but my son is high needs and I don't think it would go well if I tried to force it.

I'm curious if anyone else has faced this issue and how it worked out? We do have my sons crib set up next to our bed, which sometimes he is half/mostly in during parts of the night. He does move quite a bit. Once the baby gets here and I may be tandem nursing, maybe my son will get used to staying on one side at night, while the baby has the other side, and get out of the habit of moving around so much?

Thoughts and advice please....

2011-02-12T01:10:23Z

Wow. I don't know where you people are getting your information but you really need to do more research. Safe cosleeping actually reduces the risk of SIDS. In countries like Japan, where cosleeping is the norm, they have the lowest rate of SIDS. Cosleeping helps babies wake up and get in tune with the mother's sleep patterns of light sleep and deep sleep. I really advise those who commented its not safe to do more homework; you obviously don't know what you're talking about. Here's some informative links on the subject.

http://www.parenting.com/article/ask-dr-sears-co-sleeping-a-sids-danger

http://www.naturalchild.org/james_mckenna/biological.html

http://www.naturalchild.org/james_mckenna/cosleeping.pdf

http://www.naturalchild.org/jan_hunt/familybed.html

http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep/familybed.html

ѕαѕнα2011-02-09T23:49:27Z

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Maybe you could try a co-sleeper for a while to see how he deals?
http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2401891

I plan to use a co-sleeper. :-)

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Typo2011-02-10T08:25:31Z

Why ask this here, your going to do what you want and not what is suggested anyway.

Here is why I think this; it's not recommended to sleep with a small baby. It is not considered safe for the baby for a number of reasons, including the fact that it increases your baby's chances of dieing from SID by over 5 times! Is is not recommended that a baby sleep on a bed designed for an adult. It is also not recommended that you be breast feeding a 28 month old baby. You have also raised a baby that is unable to sleep alone which is a poor choice.

the simple fact is that you are doing what your want and are now looking for people to tell you what you want to hear and not what is best for your baby.

But don't worry, you will not have any trouble finding a lot of people who will support your strange ideas as how to raise a child. The world if full of crazy people.

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?2011-02-10T07:51:40Z

It is highly not suggested to cosleep with an infant, adult beds arent made the same way as infant beds for a reason, hundreds of babies suffocate on mattress covers every year, plus theres always the risk of a parent rolling in their sleep, or the babies face getting caught on loose bedding. If you choose to cosleep, thats fine, not my thing, but I dont care what you do, but its suggested by doctors to have them in a separate crib or bassinet next to the bed at first, then move them in the bed when they are old enough to handle normal bedding, alert you if they are in danger, and most of all, roll away if their airway is blocked, its just basic safety. I know it probably wouldnt happen, but is it really worth risking it?

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?2011-02-10T13:08:46Z

bad idea period

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