I need to break up with my messed-up boyfriend.?

So I need to leave my boyfriend. I'm not attracted to him anymore (physically or mentally) the little things he does bugs me a lot more than we first started dating, he is lousy company (no conversation), he's become an embarrassment around my friends due to lack of social skills, and he can not think for himself (I like a guy with a brain) anymore.

Problem is, he has a lot of emotional issues, stemming from a bad childhood with abusive parents. Problem is, he insists on living in the same town as them, and still helping them out and generally letting them boss and bully him. He's already struggling in school, but refuses to see a therapist. I've spent months already trying to help him, but he's made no improvement to his life. Even though he logically knows he needs to make changes, he has continuously lacked the will to do so.

I'm afraid that if I break up with him, he'll do something stupid (to himself or others), and I don't want to feel responsible for him being more of a mess.

Any advice on how to deal with him/this?

Thanks :)

justabitbitter1472011-02-14T13:18:27Z

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you can not help anyone that doesn't want to help themselves.

noguchi2016-10-15T03:51:33Z

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Anonymous2011-02-14T13:18:30Z

so your plan is to stay with him forever?

Anonymous2011-02-14T13:17:30Z

kill him!


then yourself!


murder/suicide!!!!