Ok..so the other day I decided to doodle in my diary...naked people to be exact, complete with genitals & boobs. and some of them were..uh..getting it on. So I shut my diary and was planning to erase & throw out the paper. So I left to go to an event at my school. It was fun. I came home, and my mom said, "Can I speak to you?" she brought me down to her room, and took out my notebook. she started asking me about if i had seen stuff like this and how come i knew what everything looked like. (i knew them from my science textbook & my own anatomy). she said she was just "shocked".
so what do i do? i'm embarassed, guilty, and i feel bad for my mom considering she thought i was innocent. im planning on talking to her about it but idk what to say. thanks for all the advice.
Alex2011-04-03T10:49:55Z
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Call her out, ask her why she was going through your diary which you assumed was for your personal use and therefore something you assumed would be -PRIVATE-
I had a similar thing happen to me and I just called my mother out on it. I offered that I wouldn't ask her why she was going through my stuff if she wouldn't ask about my personal things. It ended up a stalemate and we just left it at that. Now we laugh about it.
Really what you choose to draw is your business, you're perfectly innocent but you're not ignorant either and your mother can't expect you to remain oblivious forever because you are growing up and you do learn about these things. Wouldn't she rather you knew the facts and expressed yourself through drawings rather than going out and doing something stupid and then regretting it like so many teens?
An easy way to weasel out of it is the tell her what she wants to hear, and NOT what she doesn't want to hear.
Tell her you know about sex. You think it's a beautiful way for a man and a woman to express their love to each other. Although you don't plan on having sex until you're 21 and hopefully married, you still think it's romantic when you see a couple making love. Say "Mom, you know how a teenage girl thinks about this stuff sometimes. I can't stop my hormones from invading my thoughts from time to time."
That's how you admit your mistake, but re-assure her you are not going to have sex.
you are still an innocent but you appear to have some artistic abilities and chose to express them in a silly way in that you did nothing to hide or destroy them. Knowing what body's look like has no more to do with sex acts than it does with killing people Tell mom the truth and if she says don't do that again agree and find other subject to draw
Say that it was a one time and that you were gonna throw it away then after a while say wait why were you goin through my stuff and ps try a lock or hidin it better