I feel bad about my parents comparing my daughter to me...?

This is a bit of a strange question, and there's a lot of extraneous family history behind all of it. I'll try to keep it simple:

My daughter is a year old today. She's bright and has been using single words since at least Christmas. (Has been saying "mama," and "dada" since before then. Fact is, however, she's very much a tactile learner, not auditory.

All this is great, but I have an issue. My parents tend to compare her speech development to mine. I was speaking clear individual words by the time I was five months old, and complete sentences by eight months. I wasn't very keen on motor skills, etc. (I know I was a freak. I wouldn't believe it if they didn't have videos and witnesses.) It makes me feel bad when they compare her speech development to mine, asking why she sometimes lapses into rounds of "babababa" "dadadada. She's very bright, she's just not auditory. Also, she does say short, two word sentences, she generally just prefers more "emotive" vocalizations.

I guess I don't really know what normal is. Is she normal and should I be worried? Should I feel bad that my parents compare the two of us? I'm probably overreacting.

2011-04-03T15:16:49Z

Sorry about the punctuation errors... I'm typing with one hand, holding my daughter with the other.

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Tell them to stop comparing! Everyones different. Oh and happy birthday baba x

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Anonymous2011-04-03T13:23:41Z

Wow, I don't know what to say. It must be very worrying when a speech delay runs in the family? I suppose all you can do is keep reminding your parents that even though it took you a very long time (eight _months_!) to start busting out the complete sentences, you talk normally now, right? Gently remind Grandma and Grandpa that her "emotive vocalizations" are coming along. Have you had her investigated for autism, as only two-word sentences in lieu of paragraphs is quite rare at 12mo?

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momma dread2011-04-03T13:23:42Z

you need to go study baby brain development... then come back and fix your story

lol K, you nearly made me spit out my coffee!

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?2011-04-03T13:21:01Z

Ignore them, it isn't a competition!

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