Ok, so I lost my virginity last night...?

So I lost my virginity last night, and I don't feel any different than what I did before that.
Is that normal?

It was nothing like I expected. It wasn't as emotional as I thought, it was shorter, and not as painful.

Also, I'm pretty sure my cherry didn't get popped, so would that still consider me a virgin even though I was penetrated?

I'm kinda confused on the whole thing.

Also, I'm pretty sure if my boyfriend broke up with me, it really wouldn't affect me all that much.

I think it's because when I first messed around I was so emotionally hurt that after that time I just put all emotions aside when ever I would do something.

Could I have done this?

Anything would help, or any thoughts or personal experience

2011-07-24T12:17:29Z

Also, this sounds bad, but I didn't realize what was happening at first. It kinda just went with the flow of things.

I do care about this boy. That's one reason why it happened.
Also, I am on birth control, and he didn't ***...so I am not worried about getting prego.

And I don't mean to put my emotions aside, I think it just happens automatically, or sexual activity doesn't bother me like it first did. I'm still kinda confused on the whole thing.

Trust me, I do really, really like this guy. I've made him wait for almost 2 years. But I guess also, it's not where I wanted to lose my virginity and there was no romance to it.

Thanks for all the comments everyone.

?2011-07-24T12:31:45Z

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U are no longer a virgin despite your "cherry popping" or not, a penis penetrated you and you had sex.
As far as everything else, u just had bad sex. Sounds like u didn't reach a orgasm, if u had u would've mentioned it. The 1st time doesn't always equal bad sex, my 1st time was with a guy whom I didn't know for long, but we had good sexual chemistry and I reached the big O. U also sound pretty young so maybe your just not ready. For me good sex is just as mental as physical, so maybe u just need to relax and wait until there's a connection, or u just can't take it anymore and want to know what all the fuss is about, just use protection.
BTW sex is amazing when its done properly, its mind blowingly earth shattering!!

Poppet2011-07-24T19:07:50Z

"Also, I'm pretty sure my cherry didn't get popped, so would that still consider me a virgin even though I was penetrated?"

Your hymen status is irrelevant. You had sex. You are not a virgin.

Frankly, I think you just had sex to "get it done and over with". You weren't emotionally attached to him nor the event. That's fine if that is what you like to do. That being said though when you have emotional sex for the first time you will see the difference and wonder why you didn't consider it an important event in the first place.

colostomy_punch2011-07-24T19:07:08Z

There is no switch, no magical song that starts playing the next day because you aren't a virgin anymore (at least there wasnt for me) but I am comforted to know that it was with someone I loved and I don't regret it. Your first time should be a good experience, always a little awkward lol which is to be expected, but overall.. you will remember it for the rest of your life.

You aren't a virgin anymore.

It's sad that you want to disassociate so much and just not feel.. it makes me wonder why you bothered to have sex or even be in a relationship in the first place? Seems like you have other emotional issues to deal with.

Anonymous2011-07-24T19:10:04Z

You do not have to have any sexual actions for your cherry to get popped. it couldve been popped by simply riding a horse. and no your not a virgin anymore because you have actually had sex. you probably dont have any real connectivity with this guy so thats why you feel no emotion for him.

Anonymous2011-07-24T19:08:06Z

cherries dont always pop
you could have popped i by doing anything as a child.. like horseriding/different menstural pad things that go inside... tampons i think they are called
so that doesnt always happen
i wasnt emotionaly attacted and i was the one to break up
yep its short
god knows whta all the hype is all about it

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