Ladies who have been "fixed" or thinking aobut it?
So after i have my second child in april i am thinking of having my tubes tied. my man and i have decided that we are good with two and since i can't be on birth control we are looking for alternate options. tell me your experiences with either thinking about having it done or getting it done please! :)
2011-10-17T10:49:37Z
i def know that i am done. i have only ever wanted to have two kids and whether chad and i stay together or not i will always have 2 beautiful children. so the permanentness of this doesn't bother me. i was just looking more so for personal feed back from people who had it done or want to have it done.
and no having him done is not an option cause from my readings i've seen too much about how guys tend to loose libido and have personality changes when they get snipped. plus he's not for that. this was completely my own decision as a means to an end. this way we can continue sexually as we always have with no condoms or anything like that.
CelticChiliPepper2011-10-17T10:23:20Z
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Hi... I'm 27 weeks along, with my 5th, so we are definitely done after this one! We're both going to get 'fixed,' just to be on the safe side; we are THAT done! Here's a good link:
I'm looking into the 2nd or 3rd options... Second choice could be ideal for me, cause I'll already be in the hospital, for the birth. Third choice, well... Wouldn't have to have a scar on my stomach, and only a local is needed.
You may have some people who will tell you it's less invasive for your husband to have a vasectomy, but I see no problem with going into it with a practical point of view, such as, what if you two split? (No offense intended.) Or, something were happen to him? You'd still be protected against pregnancy, if you take responsiblity for yourself... If he gets a vasectomy, as well, then you have double protection.
It is less invasive for your "man" to have a vasectomy than for you to have your tubes tied. Please do not take this the wrong way but I have known too many women who have had their tubes tied after 2 children and either decide 5 years from now they want more children or end up getting divorced and remarried then decide they want children. Please think about this long and hard. Is there a way to use condoms or some other form until you know for sure...something that is not permenant.
I had a tubal at the same time I had an ablation for bleeding issues. (The doctor would not do the ablation without the tubal.) I had no issues with it -- minor surgery, one night in the hospital a bit of discomfort for a few days, and then back to my usual routine. You DO have to be sure that you are done having kids. If there's ANY doubt in your mind, then wait to have it done and find another method. (Condoms+spermicide are about as effective as hormonal birth control. An IUD would be another option.)
I am having my third and final baby in April also. I would make sure that you are okay with just having two because you can't reverse it. I would ask yourself if I were to get divorced one day would I want to have more kids if I find mr right? am I okay with two etc.. I would wait six months after your baby is born and if for sure you think you still only want two kids then go ahead and get it done
There is one procedure I would highly recommend which is called "Essure" and is considered a permanent birth control. Instead of having surgery, two inserts are gently placed without need of anesthesia- and is very non-invasive. This can be done in a few minutes and is painless and safe.