I REALLY need help with my husband.?

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Medication for depression can be very expensive. However; you can get some of the older drugs (like prozac) for $10 for a 90 day supply. Research costs (be sure to call lots of different pharmacies to compare prices), and ask his doctor if one of the cheaper drugs would work.

If the cheaper ones don't work, check out patience assistance programs like http://rxassist.org/

It sounds like he needs some therapy and the two of you could use some couples counseling. If you can't afford the medication, I'm guessing counseling would be an expense issue also. However; you mentioned your pastor. Does she do counseling? Many pastors do. If not, I bet she could refer you to someone who could help.

Since you've experienced depression yourself, you know how awful and debilitating it can be. Men tend to blow up during the times that a woman might curl up into a ball. It's just a different way of expressing it.

Exercise can make a big difference with depression. Get him to go for a run, walk, or bike ride everyday. I know his time his limited, but getting exercise in will be an investment in himself and your family.

Maybe you could even put twins in their stroller and make it a family walk at times – but I think in general, he needs to do “hard exercise” to help with his mood.

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I would recommend having special nights together, away from the kids and doing something like a movie date or something... and then having an alone night where each of you does something on your own to de-stress. That's how I deal with things. I tend to de-stress at work because I find being alone when you are tied together so often helps alleviate too much pressure which can result from a relationship....Show more

You guys need to get away for a lil bit...just the both of you...take the kids to their grandparents or another family memeber...like you said hes is depressed and overworked...he doesnt wanna come home and hear you nag at him about some dirty clothes....his mind is worrying about more then just petty stuff(housecleaning stuff is petty to him)

I dont know how you feel about self medicating since you say you go to church...but marijuana will help with his depression...there are other ways to take it other then smoking it...there are ediables and drinks..
You need to understand that he is stressed about being able to take care of his family...I know youre busy too with the kids(thats a full time job in itself) plus a parttime job....Just get away for the weekend and unwind and relax with each other......Show more

Really I think both of you need a marriage counselor. While it isn't unreasonable to want someone to pick up after themselves, that is a really stupid thing to start an argument over. Yet you feel the need to bring it up countless times rather than just doing it and he feels the need to snap at you rather than just doing it. It seems to me like you both have deeper issues that - really nobody who hasn't seen you together and is able to give objective unbiased feedback - can answer.

If it really is just the little things try making a list of things you want him to get done and put it somewhere he will see them like the fridge. Don't put it in a room he goes to relax. Don't continue to nag him, just put it on the list and let him get it done when he feels like it. Again this will only work if there isn't a larger issue....Show more

I consider its most important to seem at what retailer the receipt is from as good as what used to be bought. It might deliver you clues as as to if he used to be skipping paintings to do whatever he shouldnt had been doing. If its whatever typical, like groceries, perhaps the time used to be fallacious. Try and consider again to whilst he bought the object at the receipt. Perhaps its from a deliver retailer and he needed to prefer whatever up for his workplace? If that doesnt aid, I could name, or move to the shop, and ask the cashiers if the time is often proper and that i could enquire approximately the object that used to be bought at the receipt. Once once more, if its whatever minute, I wouldnt fear approximately. But without doubt if its whatever that he shouldnt had been shopping then you definately will have to absolutely carry it up....Show more