Will I ever get along with my sister?

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I'm 18 and my sister is 16, almost 17 and we've been fighting with each other every since we could talk more or less. My sister is my mothers favourite, and she's even admitted that to a certain degree, and my mother and I have a rocky relationship, so if my sister and I ever argued (or still argue) she will always aim scolding at me first even if she doesn't know what the situation is. I thought that our relationship might improve as we got older, but he problem with my sister is that she is very over sensitive, she gets upset easily by not very big things, and the other problem is she is a record grudge holder and will hold on to any arguments and thing I've ever done to her and uses it to fuel other arguements about how horrible I am, where as I usually forgive and forget and block out the bad arguements even if I try and remember them. So when it comes to defending my self in these arguements all I can say is 'stop always bringing up the past' but that never does any good. My sister and I barely talk, if we do it'll start another arguement. Up until about 2 weeks ago before we went on holiday together and shared a room for two weeks I thought that one day she would just get over all the grudges and we'd be able to get on like my friends and their siblings, but afterwards I actually realise how passionately she hates me, and I don't think we will ever have a relationship. 
My sister and i have not spoken in about 3 days, not because of an arguemtne, we just havent spoken, today my sister was doing artwork on The kitchen table and I went to the fridge and sow some chocolate brownie things she'd made, I asked her if I could have one, she said no, I asked why and she said because you're a horrible person. 
She doesnt forgive, I don't know what to do, she just makes me so angry, if someone has a similar experience, please share what you did to help, thank you.

Joana · Answer

Eventually you'll get along better.

Anonymous · Answer

It sounds like you do not win any arguments, if that is the case I think I would give up all of this rubbish and let her argue with her self.why care what she wants to. Argue about,just tell her. You do not care you have better things to do. Walk always, go out , just get out of her way. Just play a game with her of ignoring etc.  she must be sick of it when you never responded with your. Normal comment.do not tell her, but I think you could be the last one laughing at her. But do not try to. Annoy her, or aner her, but you will start to see her trying to figure you out.but I think you will win.

Elyy · Answer

I had a lot of problems with my sisters and it's natural you both are of different point of views. What I did was put myself in my sister's place (which was really hard for me because I'm a guy apparently). Try to see what upsets her in you and try to avoid these things nothing works better than discussing your problems and exchanging your point of views. 

Hope that helps

Anonymous · Answer

Move out. Me and my older sister used to HATE each other, we used to fight aggressively to the point where we had black eyes. Then when she got a boyfriend, she was always staying at his and was hardly ever home. She matured and so did I and now we get on like best friends. You both need to grow up (particularly your sister) she is acting really immature for a 16 year old.. Try not to retaliate to what she says. I know it's hard but it's the best way. Just don't talk to her unless she is willing to be nice. Things will change as time goes on, just ignore her if she has nothing nice to say and can't be civil with you over silly little arguments that happened in the past. Think about moving in with a friend or something for a while, then when you come back she will have missed you and might be nicer.

Will I ever get along with my sister?

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