How do I convince my mom to...?

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Okay, so I spoke with the admissions officer for the New York Film Academy because they're going to be doing auditions for their school about two hours from where I live. I have seen mothers move heaven and earth to help their children, even without a justified cause. But my mom does not seem to care about my situation at all.

Anyway, this audition is my one shot at being able to go to school for free. We cannot afford to go to this school or any school, so I NEED to get a scholarship or I will never be able to go to college. This audition will guarantee you a scholarship if they pick you. This school is my dream. It's an acting and film school, and it's my only option in life. 

Here's the thing. My mom will not take me to this audition. She comes up with many different reasons as to why she won't let me go, but it doesn't seem like she's even trying to come up with ways to let me go. She just doesn't seem to care. She thinks this school is a scam, and that I'm not good enough to pass the auditions anyway. She said even if I did pass the audition, what was I supposed to do afterwords? The school is in New York, so obviously I would have to move. I have been trying harder than anyone can ever imagine to get a job. Mainly so I can save up and get a place in New York for a while until I can get another job there. She doesn't seem to think I can do it.

She's comparing me to my older sister who has just graduated and is still living at home. My mom wants me to think "realistically" and change my goals because she did. I am not ready to change my goals. I don't plan on it. I know that if I change my goals, I will end up living the way I am now, and will not be able to provide better for my kids in the future. 

School is already painfully hard for me, and I am doing everything in my power to get to this audition so I can go anyway. I'm not going to work at paying my way into college because it's just too much for me. 

If I don't get to go to this audition, that's one thing. But how can I make my mom at least care? What can I do to get her to try? This whole thing doesn't seem to concern her and that's what bothers me.

shutuppauface · Accepted Answer

Do you have any training or experience to warrant the two-hour drive to audition against kids who've been studying and performing in their disciplines since they were very small?
Have you gotten good grades and been involved in other areas of school to be an attractive scholarship candidate to other institutions, or do you just really, really want to be an actress and if you can't have that, you won't go?
An out of state school is prohibitively expensive even with an academic scholarship, just living in NYC for the school year will cost five times as much as tuition to your local community college.
If you have proven aptitude at acting, push for it. If it's just a teenaged girl's pipe dream, stop blaming your mother and find another plan. NYC already has more than enough wannabes.

EDIT:
I will ask you again-- do you have any training or experience beyond school choir and plays? Voice, dance or acting lessons, professional credits, commercials or film roles on your resume? Daytona has no shortage of opportunities, it's near you, yeah?
Until you answer these specific inquiries, I can only presume you're nothing but a another kid who wants something she's not going to get.

And show biz is the hardest, lowest-paying-overall profession, so if you "want better for [your] future", it's the worst choice you could make.
Stop being so dramatic, they want people who can act for the camera, not stamp her foot and pout online.

EDIT:
marval_99 is out of her mind. A one-bedroom apartment in New York City was NOT $1,000 in 1964. You can get a share for that today.
I'm guessing she hasn't taken that train from upstate NY into the city very often, certainly not to perform.
And you can't guarantee your mother you'll find a place with schoolmates, you won't meet them until the first day of school, NYFA doesn't have much housing assistance. Their residences are $1600/month.
And she must've meant she studied music at a Big Ten university, because Iowa has never been ranked in the top ten universities, in music or anything else. 
Not even in the mid-'60s when she went there.
Completely clueless.

EDIT:
Then why are you auditioning for the acting portion? Scholarships are earmarked, you can't go in for acting and switch to cinematography on their dime. For that scholarship, you submit a reel.
You really have no clue what you are doing, do you? You did no research, just saw an audition notice and hitched your dream to a star.
SUCCESSFUL cinematographers make a decent living, sniveling, whiny, delusional little wannabes don't get to audition and have to actually do something practical with their lives.

marval_99 · Answer

Perhaps your mother had dreams too she had to give up, and thinks it happens to everyone.  I majored in music in a top ten university in the US, my parents didn't have much money, and the university I went to was in Iowa (we lived in New York).  Dad had had several heart attacks and a stroke, so we lived on mom's nursing pay.  In the 1960's, nurses weren't paid much.  I took out loans from the government and had two jobs during the summers, and three jobs during university.  

As a singer, I know how much love you have for your craft.  I'm 65 and still have my voice for opera and concert.  

As I'm from upstate NY, I know a train goes straight to New York City.  Does she have to go with you to the audition?  Or are you allowed to go alone.  Regarding the school being a scam, google it and print out what it says about the school, how it's rated in NYS and nationally.  That will ease her mind.  

Next, living in NYC is extraordinarily expensive.  In 1964, my sister paid $1,000 - yes, one thousand dollars every month for a one bedroom apartment.  Mind you it was a nice one and not a rathole.  See if the school has housing they can recommend. Wherever you live, you'll need roommates, as even a rathole is expensive.  So don't expect much.  Also, make sure you take courses on self defense for women.  Always keep one key between your second and third  fingers.  It's an excellent weapon.

Now, google your school, show your mother how it's rated, and it's your chance for a good future.  Tell her you'll have roommates from your school to live with and will get a job.  Tell her nicely how very serious you are, and you two could make a day of it, take the train, go to your audition, then have a quick cheap lunch and a nice trainride home.  Or perhaps she'll drive you.  Good luck!

? · Answer

Wow, you're egocentric. 20 mins is rarely any time in any respect. Just coz u wanna be close your friends, you're inclined to place your mum via hell promoting a residence while she does not must? Heres my difficulty. I are living on the town A and i'm going to institution in possess B. the town A and B are half-hour away. I love love love dwelling on the town A, despite the fact that all my peers are living on the town B. It does not trouble me in any respect, despite the fact that there are occasions while i wanna be toward my peers. Overall i do not brain dwelling extra away. It's a little bit factor referred to as public delivery (trains, buses and so forth) that is helping me via vacations and stuff. Try hanging your self for your mums footwear and remeber that there are individuals who are living extra clear of their peers than you and so they control exceptional.

? · Answer

she does. she won't let you  chase a pipe dream.  your  reason for wanting to do  this is all wrong. start applying for grants, scholarships etc. now. quit looking for the easy way out.

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