I throw other peoples things when I'm mad? :(?

Today was a bad day for both me and my mom. She woke up super depressed and that made me feel depressed. I was trying to make her happy by saying funny jokes and it worked for a bit then she got depressed again and went on her laptop. When the laptop died she told me to put both away (one is mine that I wasn't using the other is hers) I went to put her on the charger and back in the cabinet when she notices I didnt pick up the other one (this is where stuff hits the fan)

She said "man you really don't f****** listen do you?!?!?" btw I'm 20 and a girl, anyway I then said "I can't carry both so I'm going to come back for it when I'm done putting this one away" then she went over to me and snapped at me saying "PUT IT AWAY!" because I didn't put in the cabinet right away.

All of a sudden I had a brief moment of where I remembered all the times my mom would yell at me like that that I just got so fed up with it that I threw the laptop into the cabinet, my way of saying "you handle it then since I can't do ANYTHING right according to you!!" then my mom got upset and yelled at me and stormed out the door. Then I just proceeded to throw her stuff. She comes back in and says if I do it again I will be out of house and home. I started crying because of what she said then I remembered every time I had to suffer because of the mistakes she made.

I hate throwing things but a person can only take so much and I'm not someone who would just go and hit someone when I'm mad. I usually throw the nearest object and 9 out of 10 times the closest object to me belongs to the person I'm having an issue with. I'm a very easy going person who hates arguments and I never throw the objects at anyone it's usually the wall that suffers. I hate being mad :(

Morningstar2013-01-13T20:24:16Z

Favorite Answer

You are living in circumstances that are not conducive to your personal growth. You need to move on with your life. Time to find your own way in the world and have your own place to live. Your mother is a trial and tribulation that is dragging you down. At age 20 it is time to have a life of your own.

?2013-01-13T20:29:33Z

My mother is the same way. She is depressed. My whole family sees it. I'm 16 year old dude btw. And my mom has good and bad days as well. It's horrible. To watch your mother suffer blaming her depression on the little things we do. Ya like that's what causes here depression. It's not ur fault an it's not mine. Really it's not. There unhappy. What I do usually is I just get so angry that I just want to smash my face into the docking stove :D but I don't. I get so angry that I get teary eyed. Because I'm sensitive. I cry because its horrible to see my mother in such a horrible state of depression. But u just became tired of it and tried my best to avoid the specific things hat made her angry. :( I hope u figure it out. Try and talk about it with ur dad as well that's helps a lot. I pray for u.