Who was right or wrong in this situation? 10 POINTS?
My crush and me text all the time. Last night he texts me at around 1:30 am and we had the sweetest convo. We were doing some hardcore flirting. He was like, "Come cuddle with me. My pillow doesn't work." and at one point I was like, "You are too cute." He's like, "Not as cute as you tho." Today I found out the worst thing ever. He allegedly plays girls! Like he's a player. I was kind of like hmmm is he playing me too? So I text him giving him sh*t and "assuming things"-according to him. We had a huge argument. Anyway I just really wanted to get to the bottom of things. Because everyone had been telling me he's a player, also he has an ex that he was with for almost two years, that I still don't think he's over. Like this kid has a lot of baggage! But anyway I looked past all that. I told him I as like, "I really liked you I thought you were different. Turns out your just like every guy." Anyway I was assuming he had a girlfriend, because that's what I heard. So I was like, "If you had a girlfriend, you should have told me that from the very beggining." He's like, "I DON'T HAVE A GIRLFRIEND. I don't have time for all this, taylor. I'm bout to not text back." I was like, "Text me tonight." He didn't reply to that. He also put on his facebook status, "Damn females these days! Ima do me from now on!" *Obviously he was talking about me.* And when I told him I was really hurt by what I found out...he didn't say anything really! But can you really blame me for being mad though? Who was right or wrong here? How should I handle this situation? Please help. Thank you so much!
~W.O.W~ Words Of Wisdom2013-04-08T17:17:51Z
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I think you should tell him to go bang his head on a wall. He is an a** and he’s trying to use you. He is one of those "move from girl to girl" sorta guy. What you did was right, rub it in his face and make him feel sorry. He needs to get a life and stop flirting. Block his Facebook immediately and if your friends I’d delete him and tell him how it feels. Males these days! Ima do me from now on!
You might be wrong and you might be right...probably not the answer you wanted to hear. It depends on why you think he's a player...like if he's your boyfriend and you see him still kissing or holding hands with his ex then you have every right to be mad. However, if you just heard from someone that he's a player...the person that told you could be lying or he could have changed how he acts... maybe he was a player before but now he really only loves you...you should only go by what's happening now and if you have no reason to believe he's a player then you have no right to assume anything
nobody was right. You made many assumptions based on rumors that you assumed were true. If you were enjoying his attention, why did you ruin it? If he was playing you, you would have found out eventually. Maybe he was playing the game the only way he knows how and now he is going to quit the game or maybe seek a less jealous partner.
When you are having fun and games with someone and they suddenly become possessive and domineering, it can ruin the game.
On the other hand, you just might be right. You are learning difficult social skills either way.
How did you find out? I know a guy that is rumored to be a player yet he supposedly had a girlfriend for a couple of years too. Everyone talked sh** about him. Personally I never had a problem with him. He and I had good talks and he gave me a hug, as though he really cared for me, not a c'mon give me sex kind of hug. I never really thought much of what I heard because I dont listen to hearsay. If I dont have foolproof evidence, talk is just that. Ive had so many people say many bad things about me too and none of them are true. People like to talk so I think you should listen to your head on this one; not everyone else. You should talk to him and tell him about the stuff you heard and see what he has to say. OR you could just give him a chance and see for yourself. Absolutely dont sleep with him.
Um, i don't believe you will have to "dump" your pal. Essentially you might go down 2 routes... 1. Talk to both of them, see should you and the lady might get alongside, you certainly not know she could turn out to be your buddy also. Let your fine friend know the way you think just a little like shes going behind your back and seeing any individual you dislike, now not in a nasty way simply let her be aware of subtly. Relying on how they each react both you may also to find yourself with an additional friend or have a mutual agreement to your friend to not see the other lady as you dont get on. Or (quite extra agressive) 2. Inform the girl to stay away from your satisfactory friend. Then confront your buddy about it, if she doesnt comply with discontinue seeing the girl then give her an ultimatum that both the woman goes, otherwise you go. This fashion you see if your friend virtually likes you, and if now not then youve already done the dumping. Your alternative. Good good fortune