Does my friend just not like me anymore?

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My friend Jana and I were really close, like best friends, all this year. We went through a ton of high school dramas together and we were always talking 24-7 at school and home. I noticed she looks down at her friends a lot, for example, she was ragging on our friend Kayla for doing something dumb with a boy in truth or dare. Like, I was disappointed in Kayla but I talked to her about it and have started helping her make better choices. But Jana didn't let it go. She kept saying Kayla's a slut and everything even after Kay said how much she wished it never happened and wouldn't do it again. Kayla and I started getting pretty close and then all of a sudden Jana suddenly forgave Kay and became her best friend again, even though I had been telling her to forgive for weeks. Well, I feel like Jana is now looking down on ME with her other friends. She's a nice girl but she always has something negative to say about her friends. I used to feel that she didn't with me. But she knows I like to go to dances and grind and stuff and I'm getting my belly button pierced and I like to wear short shorts and crop tops. I feel like she thinks that I'm a bad influence for that now... I mean, I'm a high schooler. I am also Christian. I like to have fun but I have boundaries... I feel like she talks about how I'm turning into a bad person now, because she's been pretty much ignoring me at school and she's not coming to me with her problems anymore or face timing me every day. Like, she's Catholic and we both believe in and love God, she just doesn't grind or tongue kiss or go to parties or disobey her parents occasionally (I know it's bad to be disobedient but c'mon, I'm a teen, of course if my parents tell me I can't pierce my cartilage I'll do it myself!). But I don't think I'd ever be a bad influence.. I'd never do drugs or underage drink or anything... I'd never do anything more than kiss/dance with a guy...  I'm generally a good person... but I feel like Jana thinks I'm not 'innocent' enough for her anymore... Like she was good friend of mine til she started freezing me out.. The same way she did to some of her other friends when they were 'bad influences'... Like I hope it's not true, and that I'm misinterpreting how she's acting to me, but whenever I say she's treating me different, she just says "no I'm stressed'.. but i can tell it's not that... I'm kind of offended too, if she thinks I'm a bad person. Idk, I don't want to lose her as a close friend but at the same time I don't want to be friends with someone who just talks about how I'm 'turning into a slut/bad person". I know I'm not paranoid, cause I've watched her do this 'freezing out' thing to her other so-called friends.. I thought I was different to her though.. I never thought I'd be considered to be a bad person... I'm just a teenager, I'm not perfect but I know right from wrong... What do I do? I don't like having people talk about me or pretend like everything's okay when they really just don't like me... I just don't understand what happened there.

longchamp sac · Accepted Answer

may be you are right..

I had a friend that I considered my best friend. I loved her like family and like a sister, but over the years I started noticing that my feelings weren’t reciporcated and I was giving up a lot of myself into the friendship while she didn’t. Most of our mutual friends would question why I was willing to do so much for her and yet receive so little from her, and I told them that I didn’t mind because I loved her. But over the years, it started to but a strain on me and I started resent her for not feeling the same way about me. By then, I had started to do little petty things just to get some sort of attention from her, and I pretty much hated myself for doing those things and being so calculated and petty. One day, she confided to me her problems with other friends and I couldn’t help but compare our friendship with her friendship problems with other girlfriends (her friends where also confiding to me how she treated them too), and I felt that she was doing the same thing to me as well. I started to have this idea that I was played a fool for all those years and that I should have listened to my other friends and stop giving so much. Once that idea popped into my head, it wouldn’t get out and I was mad, ashamed, and embarrassed for being such a pathetic friendship deprived fool to believe that she loved me too and that she considered me as a best friend. And near her birthday, I blew up and coldly shut her out of my life by text and by a mutal friend (I didn’t do that on purpose and at that time I was too focus on my own hurt). Its been two years, and I have regretted my actions since. I don’t think there is a day where I haven’t thought about her. What I wanted to ask was, if you were her, would you forgive me for my actions? Or would you blame me for dropping you and shutting you out at a time where you had troubles and at a time of celebration for your upcoming birthday. I still see her through mutual friends but I never could look her in the eyes and say I’m sorry because I am so ashamed of what I did. - See more at: http://www.thefriendshipblog.com/my-friend-suddenly-shut-me-out-her-life/#sthash.0ypWjvqi.dpuf

Does my friend just not like me anymore?

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