If someone really loves you, why would they care if you changed gender?

I'm gender dysphoric and love my wife. I love her because she is who she is, not because of her gender. Although it's a thought experiment, i'd still love her if she was a big, muscly hairy man with the appropriate trouser equipment, because her personality would be the same, and that's what counts. I stay male because she wants me to, but don't understand why she wants me to. She has some facial hair, and i find it endearing because it's hers. She also has some muscles, which i love because they're hers. Also, obviously i love her breasts because they're her breasts. I would love her flat chest if that's what she had, and so on. I just don't get it. Seriously, why does it matter to her whether i'm male or female? I've only been sexually interested in women before but now i'm only interested in her, and her sex doesn't matter me.

I don't get this at all. Someone explain please, because i don't want to upset her by asking.

J.2013-08-18T13:36:56Z

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You feel that way and it's great, but accept that it's not the same for everyone and you'll never be able to understand that.

I love my bf but i am attracted to men. If he became a woman I could still love him but physically it would be over. He would have breasts and I'm not into breasts. I need the person I'm with to have a penis in order to be sexually compatible, and i need physical attraction to be with someone just as much as i need romantic love.

Some people can continue with a partner after a gender change, some people can't. Neither are wrong.

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hornchurchmale2013-08-18T20:32:33Z

we fall in love for many reasons and love can change to loathing or hatred if not nurtured etc.
she fell in love with you as you are .changing sex is a big step for anybody and those who see you as say a man can find it discomforting and abhorrent if then faced with a different sex to that they wished to be with.
though you may be indifferent to sex and sexual activities .most will be opposite. if we care for her feelings ? then we must respect her wishes. doing otherwise is selfish and we ought to expect rejection in same way as we are rejecting her desires and wishes.

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Ewen2013-08-18T20:29:56Z

Because most people can't separate the idea of sex from the idea of romantic love. It's that simple, sadly.

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