10 years ago, I had a daughter that I did not know about?

I was in a relationship 10 years ago, and we were tiring to conceive a child. I was never clear on why she broke it up with me, but she ended it. I did not fight back or anything, if you truly love them let them go. So I did. Recently it came to my attention that 8 months after it ended she had a daughter.
I had moved on and have children of my own. I love them with all my heart and soul, but I find myself with the fact that my first born is really maybe my second.

I don’t know how to feel about this. I long to know if she is my daughter or if she was cheating on me… I doubt she did, we had something really good, I may never truly know. She post pictures of her now on Facebook, but does not replay at all when I send her messages wanting to know more, but I know she is a good person. Really confused about everything…

My Answer is to confirm DNA wise we are related, and then if so establish a relationship. She’ll have my love from the start; the rest is getting back years I will never be able to.

My family and friends say let it go…

Which would you do? and why

2013-11-27T14:49:38Z

She gave her up for adoption, so I don't know even if I have rights, I never signed anything.

lala2013-11-27T13:53:35Z

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NO ;; I would have nEVER let a child go all her life without knowing ;; I am her father

I would contact the mother by PHONE

and ask her ; where we can meet to discuss the DNA test
and if its ;; your daughter I would ask the mother if she agree that my daughter and myself meet in person

?2013-11-27T22:03:12Z

Do not let it go. If she will not respond to you then get a court order for a DNA test. Keep in mind you may have to pay child support but you can get visitation and start to form a relationship with your daughter.