10 years later, I find out my first daughter is born.?

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I was in a relationship 10 years ago, and we were tiring to conceive a child. I was never clear on why she broke it up with me, but she ended it. I did not fight back or anything, if you truly love them let them go. So I did. Recently it came to my attention that 8 months after it ended she had a daughter. 
I had moved on and have children of my own. I love them with all my heart and soul, but I find myself with the fact that my first born is really maybe my second.

I don’t know how to feel about this. I long to know if she is my daughter or if she was cheating on me… I doubt she did, we had something really good, I may never truly know. She post pictures of her now on Facebook, but does not replay at all when I send her messages wanting to know more, but I know she is a good person. Really confused about everything… 
She let her go through adoption.

My Answer is to confirm DNA wise we are related, and then if so establish a relationship. She’ll have my love from the start; the rest is getting back years I will never be able to.

My family and friends say let it go…

sewgoodmama · Accepted Answer

Go confront the woman in person.  If she blows you off, hire an attorney.

You will never regret trying to find out if this is your kid or not, but if you do nothing, you will definitely have regrets.

? · Answer

The child was adopted? Then a relationship may not be possible at this time if the new parents don&#x27;t agree. It is wonderful that you want to step up, but now may not be the best time to pop in. If the mother does not reply to inquiry the she likely is not hoping to facilitate a relationship either. Maybe she only wanted you to know the child existed and nothing more. Take things very slowly and try to find out as much as possible about the situation through research before bringing up things like DNA and visitation.

Halo Mom · Answer

Your family is wrong

See a lawyer, you do not want to be told you need to pay back child support.  You need an DNA test.

If she is your child, the lawyer could help with things like child support.  Visitation with the child.

You need to start out with just the two, then your wife(mother of children) and other children.  You need to let her know you will be there for her.

If the DNA comes back and it's not your child, listen to your family, let it go.

I know a women that never told her ex she was pregnant.  She did not want to share the child.  In her will, she does let him know he has a child, and if he does not want her, her brother will get custody.  I think it's wrong.  I does happen

Amaretta · Answer

This child has two parents now who love her.  She may be curious about her biological parents once she is grown and then she'll try to contact you.  Until then, don't disrupt her world.

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10 years later, I find out my first daughter is born.?

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