HELP!! Me and my twin sister haven't been talking to each other for almost 2 years, what should i do?
hi i'm 15 years old girl,
i had a fight with my twin sister in winter 2012, it was a huge fight, that day i swore at her that i will always hate her till the end of time, then she wished i had never been born at all, we were so angry that time.
now is mid 2014, it's almost 2 years and we still don't speak at each other
i want to fix our relationship but i'm afraid she will ignore me if i talk to her, we live together with our parents, we are their only child, we sleep in a same room but different bed and it doesn't help our relationship
days ago i was taking a nap on my bed and woke up to my sister beside me, I pretended to stay asleep to see what she would do, she watched me sleep and touched my forehead softly then she left the room
so what does it mean u think?? is it a sign that she doesn't hate me anymore?
what should i do now? i miss her so much, i want to give her a hug and kiss, i swear i don't hate her anymore, i regret what i said but the question is does she feel the same?
Thanks before
2014-08-19T00:15:07Z
thank u so much for answering, now finally i have my sister back, i talk to her and we apologize at each other, i promise i will treat her like a friend forever and ever...... :)
jimrich2014-08-13T21:25:29Z
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You are both VICTIMS of bad, negligent and inadequate parenting which has FAILED to promote love and respect and is allowing this "war" between both of you to continue. Once you realize the TRUTH of this, you may begin to soften and develop a better and more loving attitude towards the sister who should have been your BEST FRIEND from day one IF ONLY your negligent parents had made that possible.
re: so what does it mean u think?? is it a sign that she doesn't hate me anymore? >> I'd say yes, and it's a sign that she, like you, is stuck in a rigid state of PRIDE so she cannot let go and show you that she really does love you and wants to make up and be friends - like it should have been all along if only your inadequate parents had allowed it.
what should i do now? >> LIGHTEN UP and begin treating her like a FRIEND!
i miss her so much, i want to give her a hug and kiss, i swear i don't hate her anymore, i regret what i said but the question is does she feel the same? >>>It doesn't matter how she feels - HOW DO YOU FEEL? Can you begin to see her as the beloved, respected FRIEND she should have been all along IF ONLY your pathetic parents has allowed it. Show her this message and have a discussion about the truths in it!
I have a twin sister, we had our ups and down growing up but she is my best friend in the whole world. There is just something about being twins that goes above being just siblings. You girls shared a tummy together, you arrived into this world together and can relate to each other's insecurities. This world is hard enough as it is, and as you grow older you will see that it is very hard to find honest people who have your best interest at heart, Focus on the special bond that you have with your sister and work at being true sisters... positive and supportive. Make the first step and tell your sister you love, you don't care about any stupid fight .. all you want is to have your sister back. You all need to sit down and talk about what ticks you off ans set some boundaries for your relationship.
I think whether she wants to make up or not, you yourself want to.If you really want to make up just speak to her. You can't hold a grudge like this for your entire life. You share the same room, you have a chance each day to make up, if it is something you really want i suggest you go for it. Even if she ignore's you at least you tried to restore your sisterhood.