Boyfriend wants to get married, but not buy engagement rings?
He completely ignores me if I even mention rings. We've both got promise rings from five years ago, but they're pretty well worn. Plus, he knows how much I dislike this one. The one I wear, that he gave me was originally his mother's promise ring. She gave it to him to give to me, but she's asked for it back dozens of times. I've given it back each time, only for her to change her mind and 'let me keep it'. That alone bothers me. Aside from that, it's very sharp, and pricks my finger.
It's not about 'symbolism and tradition' so much as just wanting a new ring that would be mine. I've even expressed how I'd like to buy him a new ring for the occasion as well, and would love if he'd pick it out.
It is financially possible for him to buy a new ring. I haven't asked for an expensive one. The one I'd choose is on the cheap side. I've also expressed to him that I don't want an expensive one.
He isn't a cheap person either. He frequently makes large purchases for himself. Every payday he spends a fair chunk of it on himself. This doesn't bother me, as it's his money to do with as he pleases, but it is relevant since finances are a valid reason someone might not want to make an unnecessary luxury purchase.
What should I do/say to help convince him of why I want this.
Forgot to mention that we do not live together. He isn't getting all the perks of being married before it actually happens.