Marjijuana has become a crutch for him? Mary jane and mental addiction?

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Okay, 
so for starters, I am pro the legalization of recreational marijuana even though I personally don't smoke anymore. So I don't need any replies from angry stoners with no useful info

My bf is 25 and has been smoking almost everyday since his sophomore year of highschool. 
When he goes a day, day 1/2 without smoking he gets super irritable. He becomes rude and wants to argue over everything. He says he NEEDS to smoke and that it's the only way he can relax and calm down. 
It worries me that he thinks he needs to smoke to be able to function. 
And when he's like that and I mention I have a headache he'll tell that I should smoke and almost ridicules me for quitting. He doesn't respect the fact that I just don't enjoy it. 
And I keep telling him that it has become a crutch for him and he refuses to admit it. 
The way he behaves towards everyone when he doesn't have weed can/ has gotten him in trouble so I'm wondering how we can fix this. 
He says he needs it because it decalcfies his pineal gland and has all these other benefits etc.
He says it isn't addictive but later will say everything can be addicting and rant about how food is a drug/addictive and that's why theres so many obese people.

Idk what to do.... ughhhh
Any helpful suggestions is appreciate.
How do I explain that the cons of smoking so much outweighs the benefits in his case?

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Addiction. That's what is powering your boyfriend's behavior cycle.  And yes, M.J. can be addictive, to approximately twelve percent of its users.    Decalcification? I haven't heard of this, but I'll bet anything its bullshit.  Food is a necessity, drugs aren't, including M.J.  You could consult with narcanon, a support and information group for those who are dealing with a drug addict.  You are putting all kinds of energy and time into trying to convince him not to use...but honey, its the same as with any addiction, he is in denial and until he , himself, reaches a point where he even acknowledges that he has a problem, it ain't going to change.

How much are you willing to tolerate, if there is no change?  Decide now, where your limit is, and tell him. But don't, unless you are one hundred percent willing to follow through and end the relationship if he doesn't seek help to stop using, and ultimately, if he doesn't give it up.  That is, unless he first even admits he has a problem, which he doesn't.

From his long history of use, or should I say... substance abuse , from his complete and total denial, from how he has become dependent upon using , just to be relatively normal, I would say it will be highly unlikely that he is willing and able to give it up.  So, where does this leave you, if this is so?

Stop spinning your wheels and feeling frustrated that you can't change him, its true, you can't ! Only he can do this, when and if he decides on his own to do it. Good wishes and good luck,

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Also, the only time i've seen him go a few succesful days without smoking is when he was detoxing for a drug test, which he typically doesn't do. He usually uses someone elses pee. And he jumped ship on that in like...4 days and passed on the opportunity.

Mj wasn't the only reason he passed though, it required him traveling for a few months and leaving the fam, me and pets behind.

Mj wasn't the only reason he passed though, it required him traveling for a few months and leaving the fam, me and pets behind.

Marjijuana has become a crutch for him? Mary jane and mental addiction?

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