In love with a non muslim man. What should I do? He's my everything.?

Mahmud2017-03-05T02:08:15Z

So you are in love with a kafir, a nonmuslim and you are a muslim and you want to marry him, so you don't know what to do and come here on yahoo answers, expecting the best answer. Not a smart move.

First, it is forbidden to marry nonmuslims, you will be in hell.
Second, go take to an Imam, not yahoo answers with kafirs
Third, all racist pigs you will all go to hell, enjoy it scumbags

Anonymous2017-03-04T12:53:26Z

I know of two the same as you. they know have 3 children and his only complaint is TOO MUCH BLOODY RICE

Ben2017-03-04T08:52:04Z

Love is real, religion is made up.

Go with your heart and your instinct.

Maria S2017-03-04T08:51:09Z

If you love him and he loves you, marry him.
Religion is a person's choice. Letting that come inbetween love is silly.

Dont listen to AR. Im muslim too lol

Ar is jealous of my piousness

Anonymous2017-03-04T08:14:30Z

Muslims are in the Ramadan section, you should edit your answer there like this: society and culture > holidays > Ramadan.

To answer your question, it says in 2 places in the Noble Quran that it is forbidden for a Muslim woman to marry a kafir man.

Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters), until they believe: A slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman, even though she allures you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever, even though he allures you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire. But Allah beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: That they may celebrate His praise. (2:221 - Noble Quran)

O you who have believed, when the believing women come to you as emigrants, examine them. Allah is most knowing as to their faith. And if you know them to be believers, then do not return them to the disbelievers; they are not lawful [wives] for them, nor are they lawful [husbands] for them. But give the disbelievers what they have spent. And there is no blame upon you if you marry them when you have given them their due compensation. And hold not to marriage bonds with disbelieving women, but ask for what you have spent and let them ask for what they have spent. That is the judgement of Allah ; He judges between you. And Allah is Knowing and Wise. (60:10 - Noble Quran)


So it is clearly forbidden for you to marry a kafir (disbeliever). If you did, it would not be a marriage that is accepted by Allah ta'ala, it would just be a marriage in your head, and anything you do with him sexually would be zina (fornication) and fornication is punished with DOUBLE punishment in the hereafter as stated in verses 25:68-70 in the Noble Quran.

You are not in love with a kafir. Anything before marriage is lust not love, and the kafirs are superficial, their marriages last less than a year 50% of the time, you have to go against your Nafs (ego) and the whispering of shaytan. Seek refuge in Allah ta'ala from shaytan and ask Allah ta'ala to keep you away from this sin and to give you a righteous Muslim husband. You should recite ayat 25:74 from the Noble Quran as dua (a dua about marriage), especially at times when dua is not rejected like the third part of the night, before breaking the fast, after salat, etc.

You should know, that whatever you give up for the sake of Allah ta'ala (like this man) he will compensate you with something better always. This is clearly a test, who do you love more, this man or Allah ta'ala? Be careful not to commit the shirk of love, loving someone more than Allah ta'ala. I look forward to seeing you in the Ramadan section In sha Allah.

In the future, avoid putting yourself in these situations. I doubt you are covered in hijab, you are most likely a casual Muslim for even considering this or even putting yourself in this situation, so now it will be difficult but it is something you have to do, so fear Allah ta'ala who will hold you accountable for your sins on a day that will last 50,000 years, of which the sun will be brought within 1 mile of the people, and the only shade on that day, the day of Judgment, will be with Allah ta'ala. So fear Allah ta'ala and immediately break off communication with this man, but first you can invite him to Islam, if he is willing to believe for the sake of Allah ta'ala (not your sake) then get married, if not, then move on and Allah ta'ala will give you better. Why would you want to be with someone who isn't even going to be with you in paradise since all disbelievers go to hell? Subhanallah. What if he raises the children kafir? Subhanallah you would be accountable for all of that.

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