Im 43 years old. I pay my own bills, I have 2 jobs, and my adult son lives with me and helps me with my bills and chores. I love my boyfriend with all my heart. He has helped me with anything that I need help with. But now, it s starting to feel like he s trying to "Dictate" everything in my life. If I do things on my own, he acts like I have to ask for his permission. From getting a new credit card to doing things he feel I should be making my son do. He claims that he s helping me, but it s stressing me out. Am I being mean or
Anonymous2017-12-30T20:05:33Z
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I think that you can see at this point that your boyfriend is controlling, something that is harder to see at first. If your adult son helps with bills and chores that is pretty good! You have done well! You don't want to ruin that relationship for a boyfriend who wants to control. I would have a hard time believing that a man could make the proper decisions towards a son that is not his. You know better if you feel that he is wrong because you love your son and you want what is best for him. Either your boyfriend understands that or he has to leave.
He is not helping you,and you need to tell him that. He might mean well. But one thing I learned is to never change for anyone. Talk to him,and make him listen.
May be old fashioned, but a man who is only "dating" you doesn't deserve the right to insert himself in any of your financial or child rearing decisions. Those are joint decisions made by a married couple or by a single person taking good care of themselves.
He's making plans for your money. Should kick him out and acknowledge him as a "friend". That disables him from making any kind of decisions in your household. He would be there for one reason and one reason only.