Is it wrong to fight my bipolar brother?

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My brother is so aggravating he’s 16 and doesn’t want to go to school. he constantly argues with my parents calls them the b word says the f word multiple times and the last time got in my moms face. He has been diagnosed with bipolar. Before that they thought he was depressed and a whole bunch of other stuff. I’m not gonna lie he doesn’t talk to us and does act weird compared to us and I feel like it’s my parents fault to be honest. Every time I pick up for them and fights him physically because he disrespected my parents they blame me afterwards! He even pulled a knife on my bf and when my bf was about to swing on him with a bat my mom blamed us? Although we were protecting her! Honestly at this point I’m done with my parents and him they could deal with him. My mom literally went to court Over him not showing up at school and went through lawyers and everything to get him into a school that’ll help him and he still doesn’t go! Even when the school provides transportation for him ( literally comes to our door) like I stated before I am done with them but I’m starting to feel bad. Was I in the wrong for fighting him all those times?

Pearl · Answer

kind of, if he gets violent i would just call the police and if youre lucky enough to be over 18 nnove out

drip · Answer

Leave this for your parents to handle.  Get out the way, go to your room. 
You do not interfere. If you think there is a danger, call 911

You can not be the parent. 
You can not make them all go to a doctor and get him on medications. Or make him take his medication.

None of your friends should interfere. 
Ask his doctor, ask you doctor for info on bi-polar.  You need to understand it, and it is not easy. Go to public library for info. A research librarian can help you. 
See if you can find a support group for families with a bi-polar family member.

Foofa · Answer

He doesn't sound capable of attending school. You need to sit down with your parents and talk about your brother's treatment. If he's violent in the home he made need to be in an in-patient facility unless he gets stabilized on his medication. And, no, you trying to pick fights with a mentally ill person IS NOT okay.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, first, of course your parents are responsible for most of this.  People sometimes get diagnosed with bipolar after other diagnoses don't pan out.  He may or may not have it, but if they aren't imposing consequences for his actions, it won't matter what diagnosis he has.  I'm sure this is tough on them, but they're letting a 16 run their home.

I wish you had given your age, because this always matters.  On the fighting, the best thing to do is stay away from home as much as you can and try to distance yourself from it.  Do NOT fight your bro unless it's in self defense.  Most important, you have to tell your parents that the next time something escalates and you get scared, you're calling 911.  They may not like this, but it's not their call.  No teen should have to go through this and that's what 911 is for.

Finally, your bf should not have gotten involved.  I'm sure he was well intended, but this isn't his family and he could have been charged if he'd swung that bat and it had seriously hurt your bro.

Is it wrong to fight my bipolar brother?

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