I can not understand what happened between us, can anyone help me understand? Answer and I'll answer 1 for you!?

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Me and this girl (I'm 22, her 20) predated for 5 months. Some friend drama happened in our group and she ended up breaking up. When she broke up, she said she thought I liked her more than she liked me. Days later she said she was embarrassed by what she said because she said she did like me "A LOT". Days later I told her how I felt and she said she didn't feel the same way she did in November when our relationship was at its best. Two weeks ago (a month had passed) I told her I still liked her and still cared for her and asked how she felt. Her first words were "I don't know" and that she loves talking to me, spending time with me, likes me a lot, respects me, but that she needs to figure out who she is and that she doesn't want to lead me on and that it probably doesn't make sense that it doesn't make sense to her mom or friend. I don't understand b/c she tells me she likes me, that I treated her better than anyone else she's dated, and all of this good stuff, but she doesn't know how she feels and people closest around her don't understand it either? Last week we went on a mission trip together and people thought we were still together with the amount of time we talked, walked around together, and more.  Friends thought be distant that it would make her realize things, but I don't want to play a game to make someone realize they like or care about me.  What do you think?

Midnight Odelle West · Accepted Answer

I think she WANTS to have romantic feelings for you but just, well, doesn't. I am sorry if that sounds harsh or  painful. I have been there myself in the past. It hurts. I think you would do well for yourself to move on and find a woman who can't get enough of you, can't wait to be with you, who doesn't question her feelings for you because they are so strong there is no doubt that she wants to  be with you. I pray that God leads you to her in His perfect timing. Thank you for going on a mission trip. I am disabled and unable to give of myself in that respect, so I find it uplifting to see God working through others in that way.

BeatriceBatten · Answer

"Pre-dated"?

Drama-llama. You all sound really childish.

KittenLittle · Answer

She enjoys your company but she isn't in-love with you. When you love someone, you know and don't act shady like she's doing. She may think you're a nice guy, enjoy spending time with you, but the romantic feelings are just not there to the extent you want them to be. It seems like she's confused because she WANTS to have romantic feelings for you because of how well you get along, or how well you treat her, but she just... doesn't. Sexual attraction is ALWAYS hit and miss. You could be good looking, make lots of money and be the nicest guy on the planet, but if she isn't sexually attracted to you, then it's game over.

By all means, be friends with her if you enjoy her company, but I think the two of you need to call the relationship quits and move on romantically.

By all means, be friends with her if you enjoy her company, but I think the two of you need to call the relationship quits and move on romantically.

? · Answer

What you don't understand is that she is trying to be nice about shooting you down.  Take the hint and move onward.

I can not understand what happened between us, can anyone help me understand? Answer and I'll answer 1 for you!?

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