How can i stop fighting with mom and sort it out?

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I looked at your other questions to get an idea of your age, and what's obvious is you've been struggling for a long time. Now that you're 19, you're finally in a position to start planning your life away from home. This is good news! But...you desperately need to talk to a therapist. It's obvious you've been fighting depression and it's also obvious you're stressed to the point it's hurting your health. This is understandable if your mom is treating you like this. But nothing will change for you until you fix yourself, so please get some professional help.

Then start thinking of things you can do to start down your path. 19 is such a fun age, because you and your friends are just starting that journey to independent adulthood. So you're being unfair to yourself if you don't let this healing process begin....Show more

Here are some general suggestions I make to younger teens in case you might get some helpful ideas from them. Ask to have a serious discussion with your parents about how they see things panning out in the coming months and years. It needs to be fairly rational, so if one of you becomes too emotional (e.g. angry) it would be best to time out and try again another time. Prepare in advance what you would like to say and ask: write a plan, even.

As you reach each birthday, for example, or each new school year, what rights, freedoms and responsibilities will you have? Chores, pocket money, curfews, dating, etc. will all come into it, obviously. You can't really expect something for nothing, so think about what you can put into the family and household as part of your negotiations as to what you can get.

If you are to grow into a responsible adult, it must be a gradual process: if they keep you wrapped up in cotton wool and then suddenly let you out of the box at eighteen, you won't have enough experience to know how to handle it.

That said, your parent(s) is/are responsible for your safety and welfare during this time: no doubt they love you and they themselves have the experiences you don't yet. Seeing things on t.v. and hearing your friends' (exaggerated?) stories aren't quite the same.

If they don't want to do this, ask them if they will please consider a plan and talk again in a week or so. All plans need to be a little flexible, as unexpected things can happen, of course.

Hopefully this will show that you have a maturing attitude to your family and your life.

Good Luck!...Show more

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if shes abusive call cps...Show more

Your mom is stressing out. Is your sister baby daddy around? You have to understand where your mom is coming from, I don't think that intentionally latching out on you. I would just give her a hug and tell her that you love her, and that you are trying your best to help out.
Your mom could be stressing for a lot of reasons, money, her daughter just gave birth, seem that your sister might not be old enough to live on her own?
But I would just let your mom know that we are in this together....Show more