Do nice guys really finish last?

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The old expression, sometimes I believe it to be true. I am a nice guy. I try to be friendly to those I meet, and associate with regularly. But I feel lonely....

One of my coworkers told me about the PoF app, similar to Tinder. I met a few women and took them on dates, but those I try and make a connection with do not seem that way towards me.

I am kind, respectful, very funny (always making jokes and puns), and Most Importantly, I am not out for a "booty call" on a first date. I actually want to do the more chivalrous approach. But it seems that no matter what, I fail at trying to have a relationship. Could it be the way I was brought up? Or we just dont have that much in common? Or am I just to naive to know that she is not interested? I will admit I am a bit of a geek... (is that a bad thing?) I like Marvel movies, anime, and going out to Cons whenever they are in town.

Before you comment "Do not worry, you will meet that special someone", how can you be so sure? I want advice on things where I can start again, and build off that.

n2mama · Answer

Nothing wrong with being a bit of a geek, nothing wrong with your interests. I do question if you are as funny as you think you are though. People who are naturally funny don’t generally describe themselves as “very funny”, and always cracking jokes and making puns can actually be very off putting. I know a number of people who think they are funny but really aren’t, and it just comes across as kind of pathetic. Not saying that’s the case for you, but maybe something to be aware of.

dman63 · Answer

I agree with the other respondent who suggested  taking another look at your profile. Your interests are your own, and they’re part of who you are.  There’s nothing wrong with being a bit of a “geek” about things you’re interested in, and there’s women who would share your interests or at least respect them.  At least you’re getting up and doing something to change your situation.  Many people (men and women) complain about not being able to find anyone, but putting yourself out there is the first step.  Keep at it.

Anonymous · Answer

Were you truthful filling out your profile?  Don't write something you think a woman wants to hear.  Don't write "love to stroll on the beach at dusk" unless you really do.  Take a look at your profile.

Do nice guys really finish last?

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