How do you help someone who has been slowly manipulated in a marriage for many years open their eyes and see that their wife is the issue?

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I know someone who has been manipulated by their wife for many years and it's causing a strain on their relationship, the relationship with the mother / mother-in-law as well as my relationship with my fiance. The husband is either clueless to the manipulation because it's going on for so long and nobody said anything or he just doesn't want to hear his wife ***** so he gives into her. What happens is someone does something that is neither good nor bad it's just whatever no big deal but the wife doesn't like it for some odd reason or no reason at all but titles to her husband so the husband can put an end to it because the wife doesn't like it or she's not seen as being on top or it wasn't her idea or it makes her feel some type of way and she doesn't want to feel that way no idea. Every time something happens that the wife doesn't like even though it's not bad it's either normal fine no big deal or good It's seen as bad when it comes from a particular person because she wants it to be bad so she tells her husband so he can put an end to something good/neutral because the wife wants to be on top and want her ideas and values and believes to be the right ones and everybody else's wrong. The wife also blabs about a certain person to the mother-in-law and makes that person look bad and then when the mother-in-law asks her one son what's going on the one son is blindsided because his sister-in-law misconstrued the situation and didn't give evidence as to why said person is wrong.

Foofa · Answer

You know, it's bad Karma to try to destroy someone else's relationship just to save your own. If your fiancé was truly devoted to you it wouldn't matter what's going on (in this cryptic screed of yours that appears to be about other people and therefore is none of your business).

๒LยЄฬ๏ภ๔Єг · Answer

this man is a beta and unfortunately not all can be saved .... or want to be saved.

P · Answer

I'm sure he knows it a lot more than you think, but he has to live with her, you don't.  In my experience the only true way out of these situations is divorce and that's not something he may want to do.  Otherwise like others have said it's hard to give concrete advise without addressing the very specific details of each incident.

linkus86 · Answer

Nothing like a non-specific question.  But what it sounds like is that you have discovered the definition of a successful marriage, but misconstrue it at manipulation or cluelessness.  There is an old saying that should explain it definitively ... "Happy wife, happy life."

Anonymous · Answer

You don't. But maybe, just MAYBE you could stop coming here and endlessly whining about it.

How do you help someone who has been slowly manipulated in a marriage for many years open their eyes and see that their wife is the issue?

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