who "owns" my mother?

My mother, a senior citizen, is in assisted living retirement in CA.  Due to lockdown, I have not been inside her room since March :(.  

Although therapists have gained access to her room this fall, I have not.  I am also a health care provider, however, this fact means nothing to management.  

The retirement facility tests for COVID each week (OK, whatever), and have promised me that vaccines will arrive in January.  I feel I have no control at all in this matter.

Because of 
https://edition.cnn.com/interactive/2020/08/health/coronavirus-vaccine-race-intl/
(I don't want a "race"!!  I want (insist) on a scientific, methodological production of a vaccine).  This article also says it should take at least 4 yrs for one to develop.  

https://www.cnbc.com/2020/12/11/white-house-threatens-to-fire-fda-chief-unless-covid-vaccine-oked-friday-report.html
this vaccine should be developed/ released independent of political pressure.

I can wait before accepting this vaccine.  I personally have already been vaccinated for influenza this year, and had another injection last year, so I'm not "anti-vaxxer". 

So, does the county and/ or state "own" my mother, that they can make all pandemic decisions for her, regardless of family wishes?  

I would like some control and authority (i.e. "ownership") (especially as "power of attorney for health care") over medical procedures performed.  

2020-12-25T17:38:05Z

Thank you (I think) to all who answered.  I put "owns" in quotations for a reason.  My provider type is listed in the essential workforce list of our state, and I do not need to convince or prove to any reader here of my qualifications.

2020-12-25T19:57:48Z

What no one is telling me is probably true: 
Accept what I cannot change, still feels like an abandonment of duty

StephenWeinstein2020-12-25T05:30:20Z

No one "owns" her.  Humans in the U.S. have not been owned since 1865 (prior to that, slaves were owned by their masters).

STEVEN F2020-12-25T01:21:34Z

The Constitution says NO ONE owns ANYONE.

You ARE NOT a healthcare provider with the facility. By any logic where being a health care provider anywhere else means SQUAT, a dentist should be able to walk into the ICU of any hospital. Being a relative SHOULD mean far more than being a health care provider.

Based on your last sentence, I would be surprised in you are licensed to clean the floor in a health care facility.

Bruce2020-12-25T00:09:53Z

Nobody owns your mother. If you are asking who can make decisions for her, that depends on her condition. She may be of sound mind to make her own decisions, she may have a Power of Attorney, or she may have a court appointed guardian. If you are asking about visitation, that is up to the facility but they normally follow CDC guidelines. 

Spock (rhp)2020-12-24T23:52:57Z

your only decision is to remove your mother from their care or to accept their doctor's decision regarding the CV19 vaccine in her case.  that's it -- the care home is private and has right to make own rules, including that all medically eligible residents SHALL be vaccinated for CV19 -- or shall leave their facility.  GL finding any such home that, quite soon, will accept anyone as a resident who has not been vaccinated for CV19 -- their insurers will insist on it.  -- grampa

Mark2020-12-24T23:20:35Z

They own the home, you do not.  These rules are in place to protect everybody, not just your mom.

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