Accidentally hurt my gf. Can she have me arrested?

She was chasing our son saying she was gonna beat his a*s. We spank him, but she gets really harsh, sometimes just for little things like spilling water.
My son was getting upset so I tried to block her path so she couldn't snatch him up. I ended up bumping into her and she lost her balance and hit her face on the door. She's got a bruise now.
She was livid, telling me I hurt her and how awful I was and unsupportive, etc.
She left to go to her mom's and now I'm afraid. I didn't mean to hurt her, can she call the cops and have me arrested? Am I going to lose my son?
I don't have any proof, it's my word against her word and the bruise on her face.

2021-03-31T17:55:52Z

She did not take him with her. He is here with me. I texted her to see if we could talk but she hasn't responded.

2021-04-01T23:45:02Z

We have spoken over the phone and I gave her an ultimatum. She will not be contacting the police.
I mentioned therapy and counselling for the both of us on our relationship and parenting.
We are not married so we can't divorce, but I told her that if she does not agree to counselling, I will file for full custody of our son.
She started screaming at me and hung up. I'm going to wait and see if she contacts me again.

2021-04-01T23:48:51Z

To clarify, she has not always been like this. I love her very much but these last few months she's gotten angry and verbally abusive towards me, I was afraid to confront her, but seeing all of your answers have opened my eyes.

Again, I did not hit her. I moved to get between her and our son and bumped into her. She slipped and bumped her head. She didn't fall to the floor.

I'm simply afraid. I don't want to lose my son is all. I have friends who have lost rights to see their kids.

Faith2021-04-05T22:28:14Z

Only you know whether you accidentally knocked her down. If so, then accidents happen. If not, then that's another separate problem you should address with yourself. EITHER WAY you two need to communicate better about ways to discipline your child. It sounds like its disastrous right now because clearly you two aren't seeing eye-to-eye on this subject and its causing much more serious problems. Also, when parents don't agree in front of children on terms such as discipline, it causes the child to see one parent as inferior to the other. Take my advice, get a counselor, communicate.

Hatsune Miku2021-04-04T06:53:50Z

no finger prints no officers

Anonymous2021-04-01T23:19:07Z

You bumped into her and that made her fall face first onto the floor? I agree that is harsh just for spilling water but I am feeling like there’s more to the story we’re not hearing. 

Stonedalldayjedi2021-04-01T20:36:04Z

Unfortunately I believe she can. My mother and my father had an argument. She instigates him a lot and he tried to get some space from her and move her. She lost her balance, and she had the tiniest scrape on her knee. She called the police and told them he hit her, I know he didn't though because I was right there and would've heard it. The cops came, took her statement and called him to turn himself in. He paid bail and they are divorced. I told her she only called the cops on him because she wanted to be petty. She confirmed it and I have been disgusted since. Idk what happened to that case in court but I'm sure it's something you can fight. It depends what state you live in too I believe. I also tried to defend him when the cops came saying he really didn't but their job is to just listen to her statement and file her charges. Really twisted if you ask me, I thought my statement would matter, but maybe the cops in my town are as sht as I know em to be.
How I have 2 thumbs down is beyond me lol. This is literally my experience, there's nothing to dislike about it. 

Weirdgurl4ever2021-03-31T21:03:34Z

I'm so sorry that your gf has to be violent around your son and he doesn't deserve it at all. He's learning and growing. Child abuse is never the answer. Ik how it feels because my mom got arrested for child abuse years ago. Plus two wrongs don't make a right. Just pray that you won't be arrested and if you do, I hope you get custody for your son.🥺😔😊

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