My daughter refuses to listen to us no matter what we do. I’ve always refused to spank my children but recently I’m in the verge. She refuses to do her homework, she is mean to her brother, she breaks things. We have tried taking things away, putting her in the corner, having her write in a journal about why she did the naughty thing she did. But today she slammed the journal on my hand, refuses to sit in the corner. If I just leave her be and throw a tantrum she will stomp her feet. My family says to spank her, I’ve heard mixed messages about this but I’m at my wits end. What do I do?
Anonymous2021-04-04T03:04:07Z
Yet you keep posting fake stories about your imaginary children with this sick topic attached to them. You need serious mental help!
Spanking her is not going to kill her. A swat on her butt is going to tell her that you are now meaning business and she will calm down. Trust and believe~ millions of kids have been spanked over the years and have grown up to be wonderful people, not the traumatized trolls that people assume them to turn into.
Start by talking with your pediatrician and read Have a New Kid by Friday by Dr. Kevin Leman. Here are some things to consider: 1. Spanking without a clear philosophy is just hitting a child, and can do more harm than good. It really is NOT a necessary form of punishment or correction. A defiant child will not respond well to spanking. 2. A defiant child (not just strong-willed) may have a mental health issue. Sorry. Read up on Oppositional Defiant Disorder and Conduct Disorder see if these match your child's behavior and response when asked to do something they don't want to do. 3. Kids act out because they are testing boundaries. If acting out gets them what they want, they will continue to do it. If they find their technique isn't effective, they will often be able to change their behavior. If you child is unable to control their temper or modify their behavior, professional intervention may be required.
Often loses temper Is often touchy or easily annoyed Is often angry and resentful Often argues with authority figures or for children and adolescents, with adults Often actively defies or refuses to comply with requests from authority figures or with rules Often deliberately annoys others Often blames others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior Has been spiteful or vindictive at least twice within the past 6 months[12][13]
Never found a reason to spank my kids, but then again. They didn't behave in that manner either. The mean to her siblings is a reflection of what has happened in the home, sorry. But that is how this comes about provided there are not any underlying issues. The home work is common, usually is a result being on the wrong bio schedule, some sort of disconnect with the actual work, or the set up and whom she is doing the work with. That is something you fix with figuring out the real issue, not punishment. You are right, a couple of swats sometimes fixes things, short term. Figuring out the real issue before it's too late, and then figuring out the proper way to adjust to it. Is the long term solution.