My daughter has Nephrotic Syndrome. Her kidneys don't work well. So, I've been making sure she is safe. My family isn't taking this virus seriously and very careless. They are upset with me because they want to come over for Easter. I said no and they got upset. I know that they will still show up. Would it be rude to not open the door? They never respect me.
Jane
1. If you have a garden or balcony with enough space, outdoor air will disperse air-borne virus.
2. Make sure they wear masks when coming through the house, that they understand social distancing ie. no touching, hugging etc. We have all had to learn that we can show love and affection by elbow bumping, using our warmth and words.
3. If you don't trust them to come into your space, let them come to the door, leave their Easter presents, exchange greetings and promise to meet again soon when it is safer to do so. At some point we will all have to begin to trust that we can be 'normal', I think there has to be a lot of trust to make this happen for real, and we have to build this gradually.
So- decide under what conditions you think it is right to be in contact with your family. If you want to maintain contact and not cut them off altogether, you need to decide what's good for you and your daughter and be assertive about that.
Wishing you and your daughter all the very best in these anxious times xxx
Anonymous
Both my kids have asthma. Both my mom and husbands mom smoke. A lot. They realized quickly I wasn’t kidding when I said no smoking in our home. No smoking by a window is not allowed. No, smoking in the bathroom with the fan on is not allowed. No smoking in my garage is not allowed. And (I can’t believe you can not figure this one out) No you can not smoke in my car. Even without the kids in the car you still can not smoke in my car.
All the crap I took over the years, I held my ground.
I don’t think it is so much disrespectful as it is stupidity,selfishness and being willfully ignorant.. It makes me like they are saying You are being too dramatic. The kid isn’t that bad. Their illness isn’t as bad as you are making it out to be. This one time isn’t going to hurt. We don’t have covid.
If you let them in, they won’t leave. So don’t fall for I have to use the bathroom.
If you know about what time you think they will show, go for a car ride with your daughter. Go through a drive through for a treat if you are comfortable with that.
Lifeline
don't let them take control of your home; you are protecting your daughter and for that, they should be understanding. if they show up, don't open the door.
Pearl
its up to you what you want to do
linkus86
Screw Covid, I would lock out my family based upon principal alone.