Does it mean affair partner is emotionally attached if he brings 2 adult sons to visit and help with a job?

Someone I know is having an affair for 8 years with a man who has 3 adult kids in 20s.  They have never had intercourse or any sex.  But have kissed and hugged and get on very well.  She doesnt want to break his marriage. She has a hubbie. They all know each other. Hes doing work for her at moment. He took his adult kids to visit her and they had a fun time.   He says to her if circumstances changed and basically wife died before him he wants to be with my friend.   They have massive massive chemistry but dont have any sex out of respect for respective partners. They have loads in common.  They both 49 married to partners in 60s.  What do you think of him suddenly introducing kids to her

2021-04-03T19:04:25Z

Do you think this man could be emotionally attached?  Or could it be pure lust?  They are in a culture where leaving spouse for someone else would just be undone.  It's like the 50s in this place , very archaic and religious 

2021-04-03T22:35:47Z

No sex affair.....so are you telling me it makes no difference.....so you can have sex or just really like each other and theres no difference???

?2021-04-03T22:41:00Z

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it seems that your friends are indeed having an affair, if not having sex, they are having an affair of the heart.  Whatever they put into their relationship is not being shared with their respective spouses, hence, its a form of cheating, nevertheless.
I think introducing his grown children is irrelevant. Now: how would you like us to advise YOU?

Anonymous2021-04-03T20:26:04Z

Your "friend" is playing with fire. Please tell me, how would you feel if you found out your husband was having the same type of affair for 8 years.
He told you that the only way he would be interested in you is if his wife dies. Is that not enough for you to realize he doesn't want more from you?

princess pounder2021-04-03T18:59:00Z

Of course, its only human to develop emotional attachment after all that time.