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Friend is being used by a guy. ill answer yours?
Long time since I've asked a question. :P Alright, well my friend (uhm Stacy is a good pseudo name) has liked this boy for the longest time. (Roughly 4 years now) The problem is he's an abusive person both physicaly, verbaly, and emotionaly. Over the years they started dating and that lasted about half a year then he broke up with her for another girl because his friends said "Your girlfriend is ugly and weird". So the guy started dating, lets call her, Amanda, that went on for a bit but after he realized she doesn't put out he started cheating with my friend, Stacey. That went on for a few weeks when he started calling her names and threatening my friend. She just couldnt snap out of this god complex with the boy thinking he's the best in the world and continued messing around with him. Recently he broke up with Amanda and promised Stacy that he would change for her once he's done with Amanda. So he dumps Amanda over text then ***** Stacy once and the next day he's back with Amanda telling Stacy to "shut up and **** off"
How do I help my friend realize a boy isn't good for them. Will answer yours.
2 Answers
- Anonymous7 years ago
I don't know how your relation with stacy is but if it were me. I would ask her wtf she is doing. I would drive everything he has ever done wrong to her and ask her why she is letting someone like that in her life and then ask her why she is making me watch her go through this because it's insulting for me to see a friend put herself through this. and then make it clear that if she goes back to him that i wont be sitting around watching it self destruct again because I refuse to watch my friend go on a suicide run with him.
i am sure you have tried talking to her about it but this stuff is hard. I have always been the brutal honesty type of guy so my reaction and how I deal with it isnt for everyone but yeah, when I had a friend like this i stopped talking to her all together just because I was so frusterated at what she had become compared to the girl I knew she was that it was insulting to me.
- 7 years ago
Well sometimes women become so infatuated with a man that they wont snap put of the trance they have had cast over them. The only way you can prove to your friend that he is wrong for her is by staging an intervention (i know it sounds cliche but hear me out) gather some of her close friends and others who have witnessed how he is toward her and have them write down how whats happened has affected their individual lives and a bit of how thats affected their view of your friend. Then have them read it. You need to, say, invite her over for coffee or a hang out or something and when she comes in start the intervention.