An Equal Rights question. I want to hear from both Women & Men?

Men seemed to have benefitted from equal rights too. Very few of them hold doors open for women any more or give up their seat on a bus for a women even if she has a child to hold. Equal rights is supposed to be about equal pay for the same job and shared resonsibility with family chores or parenting. Many families with both parents working still have the male coming home and sitting on their duff while the woman gets to clean,cook, do laundry etc. There are many single women out there working and raising children alone with no dad to be found and no child support coming in either. He just dumped the whole mess on her and he's off having a good time for himself without a care in the world. What's equal about that? Don't assume that women have made great strides with equal rights because in many areas they haven't.

I think you are correct that there are some inconsistencies in what both women and men want. This is still a transition time, and not every change takes place at the same time. So, some aspects of behavior will take longer to change than others. You seem to "blame" women for this rather than considering that the seeming contradiction may reflect the way society is right now. It still takes a lot for women to step out of the traditional role.

Another thing--I can't tell how old you are, but you are at an age where you are going through a transition. Younger people--my daughter, who is 13, doesn't have to transition, but just accepts the changes in women's roles as the "modern" way as the way it is--so it seems right to her.

One other thing--part of equality is having a choice, and some women can choose to like and desire a more traditional role between men and women. That is their right. Why should we be critical of them.

Finally, let me suggest that your tendency to be a Devil's advocate is what gets you in trouble with the women :o)

well that's a very good question. but I would have to say on that guys asking a girl out I would consider that more of a tradition rather than a right because but I wouldn't say that it's the man's "job" to ask the girl out but I never ask a guy out because I have a fear of rejection but that's besides the point. I'm all for equal rights and stuff but we all know that there are some exceptions to that.

your right we women seem to think that way

we want equal rights because if we didn't we would be lead around by the nose by guys. beside we find it easier to have the guy ask us out instead of us ask them out. it also makes us feel specail to have a guy ask us out