How do I get my husband to notice me after having 2 kids?

You know you can read a hundred books. I can post the same cut and paste bs in every relationship question like some people.

What will really help?

Give him a kiss and take his side when he comes home or you come home, every time, and tell him you missed him, like you used to do when you were dating.

SIMPLE! stop thinking tht "i got 2 kids" and start thinking im the woman he married! smart n hot and ready for wht others may not... its all about the way u think! just by ASKING this question and mentioning u have 2 kids means u consider tht a setback or at least thts wht uve been taught u and every other woman outthere! yet its quite the contrary when a woman is a mother of a mans kids.. theres a certain feelin or lets say admiration from the man toward the woman tht NO passionate love could ever reach so tht makes it easier for u! u dont have to work hard to get hes attention! on the other hand we all know tht a person tend to come home wanting to RELAX and well married life is FULL of problems.. so every now and then try cuttin urself loose from all those problems and responsabilities tht u have to remind HIm or tht u usualy talk about and just act as u were single and nothin else mattered than u 2 beein together! he would immadietly notice the diffrence and appuciate it even MORE than ur trying to make everythin more comfy for him or at least thts WHY I THINK

Usually after childbirth a woman tends to mentally think of herself as "maternal" the problem being that this attitude tends to be "unsexual" tword your mate.

what you really need to do. is get your Sexy "mental Imaige" back. First reming your self ( I AM THE HOTTEST WOMAN ON THE PLANET TO MY HUSBAND!!!)

one way to do this is do a bit of flashing for your husband. you can do this publically or at home. just let him catch glances of your ***, puss*, and breast then show him you still find him irristable.

Reawaken your sexual nature. and the hubby will surely notice.

Oh one other thing.

Men are stimulated by external factors. How you dress for him, and how you talk to him can play a huge role.

Quietly talk to him about some of "his" fantasies. Don't judge any of them, but find one that you can play to the hilt.

It does not matter if he wants you to be a private stripper for the night and treat him like a "VIP" or if he wants sex with 2 women at one time. try getting several idea's then find somthing you know he dreams about doing with you and make his wish come true.

Now here is a secret. after you make one of his fantasies come true. ( share 2 or 3 ideas you would enjoy trying, and ask him if he would like to plan the next "seduction" and set a date in say (3 to 4 weeks) give him plenty of time to set it up. then once each month keep alternating.

Read the books I listed below, they have great Marital relationship information you can use to help communicate effectively with your mate.

Start by noticing your H more than your kids.

I suspect you now pay a lot more attention to the kids than you do to your H.

How much attention did you pay to your H when you first met?

Ok, go back and do those things.

Yes kids need care, but if you married for life, you have to have a relationship with your H long after the kids leave, so you need to put your H first, then your kids to provide for a strong stable marriage with two parents for your kids. That's one of the best things you can give your children.

Yes. Dress like a woman. Do your make-up/hair, if your not going out to play with the kids, wear dresses/skirts; or clothing that shows your figure. (Nothing sluty, unless that's what you're going for). If these simple things don't get his attention then you might want to look at other issues in the marriage.

Reinvent yourself. Get new hobbies, new interests, have a makeover, be gorgeous and avoid letting him see you sloppy, and all those little things that will make him want to get to discover you all over again.

just be yourself. tell him inperson of course, that you would like to be notice once in a while. make suggustions to him and get an babysitter so you would have a quiet time to talk.

Mention the idea of the desire to be in porn

you should wear makeup or dress up nicley so he will notice you!