My 7 year old daughter is having problems making friends at school because shes very shy. What should i do?

Go to the school activities, join the PTA, and in this way, get to know the other moms and dads in your daughter's class. Then invite the girls over, one at a time, or they'll just play together and leave your daughter out, which is worse than it is now. You can take the girls to a place to paint plaster animals, or make teddy bears, or you can have a picnic in a park. Or it may just be enough for them to play together at your house because your daughter is most comfortable there.

My daughter was really shy, too, and was kind of lonely sometimes. It can be hard to watch your beloved little one suffering through this stage, but I want to reassure you, it will pass. My daughter is 16 now, and while she will never be a big-time extrovert, she has a few really close friends and they would all die for each other. One other good thing about our shy children is, they seem to be pretty good judges of character, even as young as age 7. Maybe it is because they spend so much time looking on from the outside, but they can really spot a phony and they don't fall for it.

Is there some activity that she is really good with? Have you considered enrolling her in some after school programs or even in school groups/sports?

I was a very shy child and what my Mom did for me was enroll me in an extra class after school. The classes changed periodically, but they were usually skill based so that at the end of each I would have something I either made or learned - this sparked interest in my classmates and also helped me break that 'shyness' barrier. The other kids would approach ME and want to know how or where or what...

Hope this makes sense. :) Best of luck to you.

We don't have a shy daughter BUT we do live ALOT farther away from the other kids in her class (therefore) no social time outside of school......which is VERY important.

I asked her whom she liked to play with and contacted the parents and set up play dates. I think you can use the same strategy with the shyness problem.

I had the parents come over and "check us out" before the actual play date and so on.

She now has 4 friends whom she calls her BEST FRIENDS EVER who come over on weekends, short days etc.

Worked for us....hope this helps.

My daughter had the same problem. We enrolled her in an after school program of her choice. Girl Scouts is really good and so is Camp Fire. If after school isn't an option you might try a dance class or maybe gymnastics they are both confidence boosters. You might also want to have a mother daughter day and take to get her nails done etc..

I have 1 of those, her name is Chey and imagine we didn't know she would be when we named her, fits perfect. Anyway the teachers we have had over the years have been really good about working with me on building self esteem and letting her feel safe while yet challenging her to new things socially. She is 11 now and has come a long way. I suggest a good relationship with the teachers and school. Forcing is not a good thing though building confidence is the answer.

That is a tough one. I was a shy child but had several close girlfrinds. She can find other kids that seem quiet and shy to talk to.

If she can join a brownie troup or some other groups of girls, or take tap or ballet, or some other after school activity that may help.

Ask her how she feel about throwing a Slumber party, If the answer is yes then help her plan a very cute & fun One with lots to do, so that the other ones don't get bored and tell her she can invite whoever she wants. It's great way to start, and i believe that's the only way you can help.

Best of Luck...

In a sense this shyness is good, because it means she will be less likely to talk to strangers. My dau. had this problem, but now she makes friends like crazy. It's a phase.

She is going to start making friends, and then your phone will ring like mad for hours on end. Just don't push her, and don't sweat it. You could also in the mean time involve her in play groups. Hope this helps.

you cant force her to be out going.. but you can guide her towards finding friends ect..a trick my aunt used , she got her very shy daughter involved in karate.. drama... dance..

now the girl is a woman and there isnt anything shy about her.. mean yes .lol... activitys will give the children something in common.. and that is a nice first step towards making friends.

She might do better if she was in a more comfortable setting, maybe you could have her invite a few of her classmates over for and afternoon and do something very cool with them. Maybe a makeover party or something like that? Mary Kay does free make-up and facial demos... might be fun for you too!