how can you catch a cheating spouse?

When I caught my husband cheating it was a horrible reality. it was 1999, There were hints, new underwear, showered before and after work, he would be missing at his lunch hour, a phone card ( we have long distance) he would get defensive when I came in the roomand he wouldminimize his email. I took matters in my own hands and hackedmy husbands email. Which took me all about 20 min, since I knew him so well I figured out his passcode. All the evidence was in the emails back and forth to this woman. Every last horrible, painful detail. I confonted him, I left. He begged me to come back. I did and for a he has been a good guy ever since. He basically told me that he got caught up, he knew he loved me, he just was very stupid.

We are still married 10 years now.

Might I also suggest to pick a day and follow him, rent a car or borrow a friends car.

Well I know one way. You could have a friend your spouse doesn't know flirt with them. If your friend can get your spouses number or he/she fails to mention their taken you can assure yourself that their cheating

you can catch her/him by seeing how they react in many ways for example if they dont want to spend time with you, if they change their way of being with you. you can also tell when they dont want to kiss you or have any other relationship with you. also if they say their going to a place and they go somewhere else and also skip work. you can also get a Private detect like in the show cheaters.

You already know they are, I did. Now you pull everything you can out. Check emails, bank statements, phone bills and confront them. Although I have all those things and he knows it I am letting it all go-----what goes around comes around and he and his fling will get what they deserve when they least expect it.

phone tap because he or she will talk about it or talk to the other on the phone u can get them cheap at radio shack it plugs into your phone jack and records all calls and if u cant hide it it is cheap and simple to put a phone jack under ur house

what all these people are saying is good but you also might try asking him out of nowhere...even if he says no the way he gives you the answer might tell you other wise...also ask his best friend...i know lots of women that found out though the husbands best friend

Hire a private investigator(PI). You will have proof also for the courts. Good luck to you!

Contact the wb show cheaters.

hire a private eye. if you have the money if not have someone you trust follow thiss spouce he or her will slip never fails i ought to kniw i caught my .ex. doing the same thing ?

Come home early or when they don't expect you home.