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What do you consider abuse?

Someone asked a good question. It seems on every question where a woman has left a man, someone will ask or mention that she should not return to an abusive situation.

I agree with that.

What I'm curious about is twofold:

1. Why do people assume there is abuse, and I guess why do they assume the man was/is abusive.

2. What exactly constituted abuse?

I have another question I'll ask.

Update:

Wow, some interesting answers, some with some detail, others with folks just jumping to whatever conclusion comes to mind about me or my ex-wife or whatever might have happened during the weekend.

I want to make it clear that I was not mentally, physically or emotionally abusive according to what I've read.

On the other hand, I was lied to, hit, mislead, and kept in the dark about many things. (Forms of crazymaking, IIRC.)

I was just curious about what YOU believe constitutes abuse, not some book definition. This is about YOU.

So what think YOU?

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  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago
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    I never assume abuse , but I dont want to give someone the wrong advice and send them into a bad situation, especially if there are children involved

    I think abuse can be physical or emotional and either sided , the girl can be the abuser,

    hitting, pushing, slapping, touching in anger

    name calling , putting down all the time, hurting ones feelings on purpose, trying to control the other person. telling them where they can go , who they can be friends with. there are so many kinds of abuse

  • 2 decades ago

    We have a lot of abuse this Monday afternoon. Must not have been a good weekend for some, and that is sad...What some experience is very violent and others mentally..The responsibility that each of us have to each other is to be the best person we can be and if you suspect anything form of abuse then seek help...And twofold- NO its not always right to assume its always the man doing the abusing it is becoming more and more evident women are being held accountable more and more for abuse too...

  • 2 decades ago

    Abuse, unfortunately takes many forms aside from the obvious, hitting/violence. There is mental,emotional, and verbal abuse as well. Threats,& put downs, not only hurt her emotionally, but can scar her for life. Guys also suffer abuse. I would suggest a free consult with an attorney, as this is a serious issue.

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

    there is the textual content e book version of abuse and there is the -intestine feeling- 'you know at the same time as your doing something incorrect to someone and also you know that it particularly bothers them. that's the lower than the radar abuse that receives swept lower than the rug as ' primary ' kin issues. i will say that ' there's no primary form of abuse. all of us have limits and some a lot less then others. This places the line of abuse a lot less for others. the perfect rule of thumb to move by skill of is to verify your intestine, what replaced into the first feeling you felt once you experienced/ witnessed this action. there are various of people round us with a decrease structure yet you may in no way know that because it truly is perceived -weak- that they ought to no longer manage to take the finest prank/tease/shaggy dog tale or the different Label it truly is advisable to positioned on the reasoning to have amusing at yet another rate. i will't get 10 factors for telling you this yet.. because you've been in a abusive kin as a toddler and also you've not received counseling (to appreciate this) for that...that it truly is perceived by skill of the PHD P's that you've a more advantageous cost to -abuse- as a ensure. In fairly some circumstances it truly is likewise actual that you may situations x the quantity of abuse you said by skill of two, because we oftentimes continually lighten the tale at the same time as it contains talking about those we like.

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  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago

    People generally assume abuse if there are physical signs or fear of someone. I don't really know why men are assumed to be the abusers. I guess its society.

    I believe abuse is anything that harms someone either emotionally or physically and is repeated.

  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago

    There is Physical Abuse and there is Mental Abuse. History tells us that the Japanese and Nazi Germany prison camps could really pour it on in both departments, during World War II.

  • 2 decades ago

    There is verbal, you get yelled at all the time. There is emotional, which goes along with verbal, that is when they say thing's that make you feel life crap. There is physical, hiting you and throwing thing's at you. and there is sexual, when they are mean enough to force you to have sex or do thing's you dont want to do. Someone that is possesive, and treats you like a child is abusive. hope that clears a few thing's up for ya.

  • 2 decades ago

    Emotional Abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse...pick 1 and read about it...they all suck to have to go through. Some say though they would rather be beaten to a pulp rather then go through months of emotional abuse. I'm not so sure but I know emotional abuse sucks! That enough?

    Source(s): By reading your details, you might be in that quiet but large group of males who have been abused in many ways by their female companions. Yes believe it there are support groups out there for male victims of spousal abuse. Good luck!
  • 2 decades ago

    because maybe that person can read the signs of abuse from the woman and sometimes women do abuse their spouses but i dont think men will talk about it i dont know why abuse started to maybe for that person to feel like a bigger person to abuse that person i have been a in a relationship where i was abused and i know the signs

  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago

    I consider abuse to be anything that can leave behind an emotional or physical scar. And not only men abuse, women do it as well.

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