MEN who have cheated on their loves, please read on...?

wow, that's a pathetic excuse. there's no reason for a guy to sleep with another woman or even for him to get a bj. doesn't matter about emotional connection, because if he truly had an emotional connection with you he wouldn't do it. leave his sorry a$$ and find a good guy that'll be good and true to you. i've never cheated, and if you're satisfied with your partner, then there's no reason to do so. if you're not satisfied, there's still no reason to cheat, just leave.

Most of the time, the women of the affair get emotionally attached to their lover. Some men might, but not too often. I don't understand the whole "bj's don't count" thing, but the men stand by it! But, thing again, if the bj's are good, you know they will go back for more. Possibly leading to sex. You have to decide whether or not you want to live the rest of your days wondering whether or not he will continue getting those "bj's that don't count!" from other women. Good luck with that decision. I don't envy you. I had to make that decision myself. I stayed. I still think about it. It kills me.

Men are less emotional than women, therefore, men often have sex without any feelings involved. Even though I am a woman, I have had plenty of sex where I didn't give a rat's behind about the guy involved. My advice to you is to dump this guy if you can't handle his infidelity.

I'm so sorry you have to go through that. I've been the victim of an affiar myself and it's never easy. He will do it again & let him know that ANY intimate contact with the opposite sex IS cheating.

Cheating is cheating is cheating. Pick yourself up and move on.

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I've been cheated on and he said it was just sex and yes bj count. It depends on the woman if he keeps going then he is a loser but he is a loser for doing it the first it.

Your bf is full of bs. Men can have sex with absolutely no emotional involvement. Sex is more biological for men as for women it's more emotional.

The question you have to ask yourself is if you fall into that "just sex" category. I'm sure he's lied to most of the girls he's slept with. It's no excuse at all to cheat on someone, that it's just sex. That's like shooting someone and saying "nothing personal".

If he loves you,the thought of any kind of sexual nature with anyone else would never enter his mind.Bill Clinton could'nt get away with the oral crap,why should your bf?If he truely loves you ,he should only want to have sex with YOU.I used to mess around with other guys when I had a boyfriend,but when I met the one I am with now,the thought of being with anyone ,but him turns my stomach.I am truely in love this guy.I changed my whole life for him,because I reliezed this is true love.This happened 2 yrs ago,when I was 39 yrs old.

You deserve a man that is going to be yours only not no hoe. I don't care if he said it was just sex. Your there he doesn't need nobody else. He is just immature and doesn't know what he wants. Your spirit is higher then his so baby girl leave him an your prince will soon arrive.

in my opinion, a BJ is just as much sex as going down on a girl.