Should I be worried?

From my own experience...sex was a great expectation of mine when I married my wife. After we had kids, our sex life went down like a lead balloon. She was and still is a great mother, but it impacted our relationship drastically. Try to remember this if you're going to get married. My wife told me recently if she had only been told to not forget about her husband's needs she would have tried harder to give me what I was needing back then. I know it sounds a little selfish on a man's part, but it is a major need for any man.

Planning for and committing to a marriage isn't easy is it? There are many stresses and worries that are natural. No one here really knows your fiance or exactly what he meant. You need to go back and communicate some more about the topic. Sometimes men and women find it hard to communicate their feelings and say things they wish they hadn't have said. It's part of life. At least he was willing to talk about it with you and reassure you of your concerns. I am wondering if he meant he is worried that the relationship in all forms will stay fresh and new....ofcourse it won't. He also could be looking at it from your stand point. Maybe he is worried that you will get bored. After searching the internet, I foound that that was a very common concern among men. Talk about it, communicate what plan you will make togehter if it does begin to get boring for either one of you. Open communication is always the best policy in a healthy relationship. Then after the two of you have talked again, revisit your doubts and see if he has reassured your feelings.

A marriage is not about sex! Not saying that it isn't a big part of it. However, if someones only worry is if sex will get boring, maybe they need to rethink marriage.

If you love someone so much that you marry them, sex can be an incredible thing. Yes, it may be the same person night in and night out, but the great part of married sex is trying new things, keeping the spark alive, doing what it takes to please your partner.

Again, I would have a talk with your partner about this. Find out if the basis of your marriage is going to be sex. Because sex does not make a marriage!

It's natural to worry about your sex life, but let me tell you that sex does not have to get boring in a marriage. Married people who have boring sex aren't trying hard enough to keep it hot. It's possible to have hot and heavy sex well into your marriage. You just have to love each other enough and trust each other enough to try new things. Love is the main ingredient here.

If you are having doubts, you shouldn't be getting married. Marriage is work in progress, and it is the couples responsiblity to find ways to keep the spark alive. Your life would never be the same after marriage especially when kids come into the picture, you have to be willing to compromise and know that everyday isn't going to be the same. I don't condone marriage or people who want to get married because I've been there and done that, but marriage is truly over-rated.

I think you are reading too much into it. If sex is his only worry than the rest of you two must be great. I would love to go into a relationship knowing all I needed to do was spice up the sex life now and then. It's really not that hard to do, just imagination.

A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.

Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.

It's normal to have some doubts when you're going to get married. Are they big doubts? I was always told if I'm questioning marrying him, then he's not the one. Make sure you're positive that you want to spend the rest of your life with him. Divorce hurts, and it's not cheap.

If the basis for your marriage is sex than you have problems before you even get married. The basis for a marriage cannot be sex or else it will fail.

I would turn this question right back to him...ask it to him exactly how you did to us.

There are so many things you can do to keep your sex-life exciting...(keep other people out of it)

He should be more in love with you and EVERY thing that you have to offer not just your hoo-hoo and what it can do for him...but it is possible that you may be reading too much into it.

Talk to him.