Will having a threesome ruin your marriage?

Studies routinely show that it's bad for the marriage. Usually, the problems have to do with jealousy or one spouse wanting to do it again (more than the other does). So... if you're not involved, there is the possibility of you feeling left out. She may want to see more women, which could make you jealous. You may want to experiment with other things which she says "No" to, which can cause bad feelings because you allowed her this fantasy realization.

If your relationship is strong, and she's absolutely loyal and in love with you, there should be no problem. However, if there is any possibility it could get out of hand... you might want to rethink this before you actually do it. Remember... 3-somes are like Pandora's Box. Once opened, that box can't be UNopened ever again, and even if you do manage to close the box and clean up the mess, the damage will have already be done.

It is just a chance you take when you do this. I did and it wasn't so bad. He did not join us the first time but I got more comfortable with her and having him touch us both. And then later it led to more. But you have to look at the girl and decide if you want to truly involve her in you life. Couse it could be the best thing that ever happend you guys or the worst. We however decided the first experience would be with someone We were both not so much sexually attracted to. That way I felt more comfortable with him being there and he didn't feel like I was trying to find someone to replace him with also. It was just a new experiment. And it worked. It was so much fun and we are actually all really great friends now. With benefits. But we made a promise to each other that when this all started we would never be with her individually just always together. That is the important thing. And what other people think is not important. They are usually insecure and jealous of the whole idea. Just do what you feel comfortable with and the rest will fall into place. ENJOY.

Not necessarily. It all depends upon the maturity level of the people involved. Usually, when these kinds of scenes go wrong, it's due to something idiotic like jealousy. Talk about it intensely with your wife. If there's even the remote possibility of jealousy creeping into it, don't do it. I've known of people who thought they could handle a scene, only to end up with a jealous, weeping and hysterical partner at the end of the night.

How solid is your marriage? How mature are you? How mature is the third party you're bringing in?

It could turn out one of several ways: You could end up having a good one-time romp on an otherwise dull evening. Or you could end up looking at the beginning of the end of your marriage. Then again, it could work out so well that you end up doing it on a regular basis, and find yourselves both mutually entering into a relationship with the other woman.

Proceed with caution. But if everything works out, you could end up having some fun.

If you have a wonderful marriage, please don't risk it.

While you both think of it as a great idea, it can turn for the worse quicker than u can think. She can feel insecure if the other woman is more experienced or hotter. And what if in the passion u do touch the other girl, or the other girl touches you, that could upset the girl. And your girlfriend could feel that she has to "out-perform" the other woman. This can put alot of stress on your wife and ruin the experience.

However if this is something u both truely want to do, we cannot talk you out of it and we shouldn't. This is merly our opinions. Good Luck in your endevours.

Wait a minute here...you wife is allowed to "touch" and you are not???this isn't a 3 way, it is voyeurism...call it for what it is!

If your wife would get upset were you to join in with both, neither of you are ready for a 3 way...too much insecurity going on here...it takes a rock solid relationship to withstand a 3rd in bed. IT doesn't sound as if you are there yet...chill and be content that you have, at least, an honest communication going on.

And consider, what if the 3rd were a guy? would you get upset watching a guy go to it with your wife? If the answer is yes, YOU ARE NOT READY FOR THIS...back off!

i think the idea is hot too. However, i am not comfortable having another woman invading my space. I'm sure the pleasure would be unimaginable, but after it's over you guys may never be the same.

Don't do it.

Fantasize or hec even get one of those tru life dolls.

You have a wonderful marriage keep it that way.

There are so many variables it is impossible to know. On balance I'd say there is slightly more chance it could hurt rather than help the relationship. I'd suggest you keep this in your heads. On the flip side if you are really strong in the relationship and feel for sure you can both handle it, why not? Who doesn't want to see some hot girl/girl action ;)

Me and My gf had the same thoughts once, but as it got closer to the time that it was to take place we had more and more problems. We both thought it was hot and very much a turn on but we loved each other to much to think of the other with someone else boy or girl so we backed off. yes it can ruin a relationship so beware. After it is done with will you look at your wife the same way and will she look at you the same way?

Yes it will ruin your marriage.

You can't solve any marital problems by bringing someone else into it.

And even if it sounds like a good idea now...a lot can change and it will forever be a landmark point in your marriage...eventually she may have insecurities. There will be a lack of trust and each of you will harbor suspicions.

if both of you are totally agree. however, it's after the fact that you have to worry about. say that you try something on your wife that the other girl tried and she doesn't react in the same way. how will you feel? if there is no change, i'd say go for it. if you are going to feel inadequate or upset, do not do it because it will tear your marriage apart.