I have been with my boyfriend for 8.5 years & it is coming to an end. I love him soo much still.?

If it's been 8.5 years and you two still haven't been married, then it would have never been meant to be.

Broken hearts can last with the most pain for 1-3 months. After that, you slowly begin to forget about it start finding someone new. When you find the new person, you forget everything about your ex except for the tiny spot in your heart where you effected you the most. Everytime you think about your ex that tiny spot will hurt, but other than that you new person should confort you enough to forget about the ex.

If you and him haev been dating for 8.5 years and you're not married something is definantly wrong. I wouldn't go 2 years with dating a guy and not getting a marriage proposal or wedding out of it. You'll be going broken hearted for 2 or 3 years chica. Move on and let the healing begin.

I think that if you keep comparing other guys to him and you keep thinking about him 24-7, then it will take a long time to get over him. But if you make yourself focus on other things and know in your heart that you are better off without him and/or tell yourself that you will find someone else that is better than him, it won't take much time. I know that for me personally, I am still not over the guy I dated last spring but that's because I keep forgetting the these facts: I create my own happiness. Noone can "make" me feel any way except me. I am a beautiful human being and I am worthy of love. Say those things to yourself. Remember you control your destiny.

It is hard to let go of a relationship that has lasted that long, I had one that lasted 5 yrs and I had to get over it. The important thing is to realize that your life is still going on and its not the end of the world. It will hurt for a while, but soon you'll be able to except it and remember the good times without being so sad. Just give it time.

Regardless of how long it takes, you can reduce that time by taking solace in the fact that if you didn't get a ring in 8.5 years, then it was never going to happen and that he won't be playing you anymore, getting the milk for free without buying the cow. This sounds harsh, but you gotta look at it from a real world, big girl's perspective.

You can't sit around wondering how long it will take you to get over him, because in the time you're spending doing that, you're obviously not moving on. Don't worry about time. Just live your life and remove all things from it that remind you of him. Eventually you'll find yourself thinking less of him and enjoying your freedom as a single, independent woman. Then, one day, when you least expect it, you'll wonder why you don't think of him anymore, soon following, you won't even care because you'll be moved on. Life doesn't end just because a relationship does. Actually, you get a new beginning. Just think of all you've learned about yourself and men in the time you spent with him...you've acquired so much wisdom...make the most of it. Live! Be Happy! Carpe Diem!

It's depends on you. Moving on is never easy and since you love him so much you may find it is harder than anything you've done in your life. The man I love has chosen another and I am having a very hard time with not having him beside me today. Good luck sweetie!!

It all depends on how willing you are to move on. If you keep reminding yourself of how great it was with this ex than no matter how great your new guy is, you'll never be able to truly enjoy it.

I dont know, but be strong and see if maybe there is something you can do to work it out! You've been together for so long dont give up!

i broke up with a man 6 years ago and I love him dearly.