i just caught my man masturbating in front of computer, and every instinct says to kick him to the curb...?

Men are visually stimulated, and all men masturbate. It doesn't mean he doesn't like sex with you, or that he would ever cheat on you, he was just doing what is natural for guys.

It makes us ladies angry, and it hurts us too, but it isn't always something we should take personally.

Talk to him about it, after you cool down. What really bothers you about it? Tell him, and maybe it will be fine, and you'll learn somethings about him you didn't know.

Oh, and just an after thought, did you wipe off the keyboard before you asked the question? :) Keep smiling

Why? Unless he was looking at gay or child porn I don't see why you have a problem. 90% of men masturbate and the other 10% are liars, lol. Even if they have a great sex life every man does it once in a while. It shouldn't be anything to get angry about, much less divorce over. It's no different than going to the bathroom with a Playboy. The only exception to that is if he was watching/being watched on web cam. That is a little more than harmless self-gratification. Maybe you need to broaden your sexual outlook a little.

masturbating is a natural act. Just about everyone does it. Why do you want to kick him out? are you threatened or repulsed by it? do you not do it or are you embarrassed by it? he is not cheating on you and he is your husband. Talk to him about it. tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. If it bothers you then tell him to keep it to himself becus he won't stop, nine out of every ten men do it. Not all discuss it. If you feel threatened then perhaps he can include you in it. It's not a disgusting habit you know most people in the world do it. Perhaps if you read up on it you would understand it more. If he's not cheating with another woman i say don't kick him out. I take it this computer is your house right?

What's the matter with him masturbating? All guys do it. It's a natural and healthy thing. A guy doesn't want to get his pleasure from his wife EVERY time. Sometimes its better when you're alone. It's not like he cheated on you. Get over it. Don't throw away a marriage over something stupid like that. Although, if he was masturbating to kiddie porn or gay men then I would be worried.

Every guy does this...well a majority of them do. Don't "kick him to the curb"...it's not worth throwing a marriage away for. Now, if he does this ALL the time..to where it's a problem, he may need to seek psychiatric help.

Don't kick him out for having natural urges, that's just stupid. I buy my husband playboy, and other porn for when I'm not in the mood due to certain circumstances beyond my control, and I'm sure you probably have a vibrator for when he's not in the mood. So, it's just stupid to get so stuck up on stupid stuff like masturbation, when I'm sure 99% of the married men out there do it at one time or the other. I read in Cosmo the other day about how some men like masturbation because it gives them a quick, no strings attached release. It doesn't mean they love you any less, or don't like sex with you.

If you dont have troubles in your sexual relationship I think that the fact that you caught him does not mean anything serious. Men are sometimes acting like teenagers and the fact that they are 30 , 40 or even more does not change that. However if your sexual relationship is not going well I would advice you try to talk about it or try to bring him back in your arms and away from the pc. Whatever you say however dont embarass him and dont make him feel like a teenage caught by his parents.

Masturbation is a natural thing. You will be surprized at how many men and women do that. It's not a sin. That is his

perrogative to do it if he wants. My husband does it and he thinks I don't know but I do. That is not a reason to throw him out. As long as he is taking care of you and paying the bills and showing you love then you should be happy.

Masterbating helps stimulate spouses during intercourse. It helps make sex better.

First of all do you know for definate that he was checkin out something or someone else on the computer. If so you have some serious soul searchin to do, if not dont worry to much he probably just got the urge in which case ask him to let you know the next time he is feelin a bit horny!

Good luck!

Well first you have to think out a few things like, would he rather jerk off or have sex with me, and was it live with someone else or with pictures on the screen, once you figure out a few things than why not go to marriage counseling and see if you two can't work through this like adults. If he'd rather a computer than let him have it and go on your way, but men will be men and sometimes do the most stupidest things with nothing no excuse for them.

Okay. It seems creepy.

but b4 you, he j-offed a lot.

He is not going to stop. If you divorce, he is still going to. Men just j-o ... a lot. Even if you have sex with him everyday.

the pictures are just a way to get him over the edge so he does not have to spend 1 hr doing it.

It is really no big deal in these new times.

Just make sure he is not getting viruses on the computer or paying for the sites. Tons of free stuff.

Maybe you can look with him.